Tuesday, October 11, 2011

Text Her In The Mood

It's a common complaint from men.  Their wives or girlfriends aren't in the mood for sex.  While it's true that the stresses of life get in the way, not all is lost.  I am sure you know that sex for a woman is in her mind to a degree, yet it's her mind that keeps her out of the mood.

In other words you walking up behind her groping on her while she is in the kitchen will not get her aroused.  To get a woman aroused you have to get her out of her mind or the negative state she is in.  Once you get her out of her mind, you get in her mind and she gets into her physical body which is the body that wants sex.

So how do you do this and get her in the mood?  Being a woman I can tell you if I feel pressured to have sex, I won't enjoy it.  If I have sex because a man makes me feel guilty that I am not meeting his needs, it will cause resentment to build.  I will stop enjoying sex because it feels like an obligation.  This is what causes many women to stay out of the mood.  The stress of the pressure from their partners.  They associate sex with feelings of inadequacy. 

If you want to get her in the mood, you must take this pressure off.  To connect in the bedroom she must connect with you out of the bedroom.  She can't just turn the switch to turned on quite like you can. Hold her hand when you go anywhere together.  Touch her without being sexual.  Women love nice words, give her a few compliments.  Do this at random and you will see a slow change. These are just little things you can do to get her in the mood.

The creative thing that you may not even ever think about is to get the romance going during the day through text messages.  If you are like most couples you text things like what's for dinner, will you pick up some mild and so forth and so on.  Women are moved by words, so text her something that will get her attention, and no not a picture of your penis.  Tell her something like you can't stop thinking about how she looked this morning in her nightie or about the way she smells.  Be a bit risque.  Catch her off guard and you will get her out of her own head.

Text back the romance is a great way to get her in the mood Use it to build up anticipation and watch the different woman you come home to.  Texting can act as a trigger to get her out of her head and distract her and catch her off guard.

Monday, September 19, 2011

Calling Women

There was a discussion taking place on my wall on facebook.  It seems that more and more women are experiencing men giving them their phone numbers and asking the women to call them.  Do you guys not get it?  We don't really feel comfortable calling men.  It doesn't make us feel special at all.  If you can't make the effort to make us feel special with a phone call, then we aren't going to likely fall in love with you.  Not emotionally, relationship ready women that is.  If it's a hook up you are looking for, go ahead and try this, it may work.

As young girls when a guy we liked would call us we would call all our girlfriends and scream with delight.  Now that we are grown, sure we matured, but that girl is still in there wanting to scream with delight.  Don't deny her this thrill by expecting her to call you.  A friend on facebook put it in a remarkable way.  See Below:

Most men don't understand that a woman loves to feel cherished and adored by a man. When he takes the time to CALL HER, this very simple act begins the perpetual motion machine of love that so few men seem to know how to run. I just don't get it!! 

A lot of the dating gurus out there teach this giving of your number as a technique to make her feel comfort and to feel safe.  While I agree with a lot of these dating gurus and think they do in fact make a lot of sense, this one rule needs to go out the window in my opinion.  There are some women that just refuse to call a man.  It's nothing to do with playing hard to get.  It just does the opposite of making us comfortable when the time comes to pick up the phone.  We aren't comfortable with it.   We pick the phone up, we put it back down.  We wait, then try again later and it just sucks.  

Your role is the pursuer, you are the MAN, please don't screw it up.  I know the feminist movement and equal rights has you all a bit confused, but women want to feel like women.  When I am picking up the phone to call a man, I don't feel like a woman.  If I don't feel feminine or like a woman, my attraction is not going to go very far, on that you can bank.  When it comes to calling women, just do it!

So when it comes to calling women, please suck it up, get her number and call her.  If you want to wait the proverbial 3 days to not seem desperate, fine.  By all means though, step up into your masculine role.  I hear young boys bragging about how many girls they have texting and calling them.  Put your man briefs on and pick up the phone. 

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Monday, August 22, 2011

How To Get a Second Date With Her

The first few dates are when you lay the ground work for her attraction to build.  You landed a first date, now can you land a second date.  If you aren't sure if the first date got her attention, be very careful in how you go about getting the second date.  You don't want to overwhelm her, you don't want to be needy or desperate.  You want to come off as confident.  It's always the gentleman thing to do to thank her for the first date.  A text, a quick phone call will do.  Don't make the second date yet though.

I know you may think this is playing games, but really how women form attraction is important here.  She won't be attracted to a man who is too eager.  That is why it's best to wait a few days before asking her out for a second date.  Give her time to wonder if in fact you were or were not into her.  Then when you contact her for that second date she feels relief because you just might be into her after all.  This plants a seed for attraction to grow.  Women love a confident man and by waiting you show her you are confident that yes she does want to see you again.  You are confident, yet not clingy or coming across as needy.

Have a plan when you do ask her out for a second date.  Hopefully you paid attention on the first date and have an idea of what she would like to do.  Don't ask her to pick the place, you pick the place.  Interactive dates are best at building attraction.  No movie date please.  Bowling, a picnic, a walk, anything but a movie.  Have the plan already, a woman likes a man who can take charge.  Just purrrr at that one.

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Don't call her every night after the first date either.  Less is more, always.  Calling her every night lets her know that you have already made up your mind about her.  What are you, easy?  No I think not.  A woman will think about you when she isn't in as much contact.  If she is liking you, pacing her will only make her attraction grow.  If you want that second date, now is the time to play it cool. 

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Wednesday, August 17, 2011

Flakey Women

I hear it all the time.  Women are flakes.  I hear it more from good guys than I do the bad boy types.  This is interesting to me and I can only speculate why that is.  I think the bad boys have a sense of abundancy more than a good guy.  A good guy thinks good women are hard to find.  Good being the key work that I will touch on in a moment.  A bad boy just moves on from the flake and doesn't really give it much thought.  A good guy keeps trying.

What I mean here is this and I have seen it a lot.  A guy goes on a date with a woman.  He asks her out again soon and she says, sure, call me next week and we will set something up.  So he calls.  She tells him she has this and that going on this weekend, maybe next weekend.  They eventually may make a date and she breaks it.  In other words she won't lock down plans with you.  You keep giving her the benefit of the doubt, after all we are busy humans these days.  Yet a month goes by and all you have had is one date a lot of promises. This is more than likely a flake.  Your first clue should have been when she wouldn't pin down a date right away and put you off.  She isn't that into you.  A woman into you would have encouraged you and set the date and actually shown up.

I will tell a man just like I tell a woman about men that disappear.  Forget her.  She isn't ready for a relationship or she just isn't into you.  Move on to a woman that is.  There are good women out there that are not flakes.  Women that are looking for someone like you.  You can't find these women as long as you keep wasting your time on flakes.

I know so many men who will meet a woman and close all options just in hopes that it might work out.  They invest time into making it work while she isn't investing the same effort.  Time goes by and they hear "lets be friends".  Sigh....When a woman says she just wants to be friends, she is not attracted to you.  It's that simple.

If you find yourself complaining about all these flakey women, I suggest you stop accepting these women into your life.  It's just as much your fault for not being able to recognize a flake and just as much your fault if you try to spend time with a woman who is not ready for a relationship if a relationship is what you want.

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Friday, August 12, 2011

Why She Is Never In The Mood

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Wednesday, August 10, 2011

Text Her In Love

Some think texting is for teenagers. They think it's silly and that it hinders real communication. While there may be some truth to this there are a few things you might want to think about before dismissing texting as a tool to enhance your relationship.

A few years ago I was in a relationship with a man that used texting a lot. I don't know if he just knew how to do it instinctively or if he had read one of the online texting guides but I do know this. His texts always made me smile. I had a ring tone assigned to this man. His texts were never mundane, always playful and he never texted me to death. The result. Every time I heard that ring tone, my heart would skip a few beats. I would get excited to hear from him. He was creating triggers and his texts helped me to fall in love with him.

He knowingly or unknowingly created a trigger with his texts. His texts would trigger a euphoric feeling in me. This trigger was so strong. Triggers can also change. He broke up with me. I was heart broke. Anytime after that if he called or texted and I heard that ring tone, it triggered deep sadness. I had to change his ring tone. Triggers can be powerful. They can cause us to feel deep strong emotions.

What are your texts triggering in your girl? Do you text mundane things like can you bring home the milk? Do you use your texts to say you are running late, or convey any other boring details. If so, you aren't texting love. Your texts are not positive triggers. If you can learn to text her things that give her warm fuzzy feelings, you can cement your emotional attraction further and deeper. Yes you can text her in love.

Triggers are powerful. Think about an addict. What is one of the first things an addict has to do to break free of an addiction. He has to remove the triggers. That cup of coffee that triggers the cigarette. Texting love is like creating an addiction with your triggers. She becomes addicted to you.

Stop using texts to your woman for anything other than texting love or fun loving things. Create that trigger in her with your texts and help her fall in love with you using these triggers as a tool. You can be playful, or sexual, and engage her imagination with text messages. Your texts become something that is just between you and her. It's those little things that add up and grow emotional attraction and yes text love!  Emotional attraction is what makes a woman fall in love.

I can also remember how it felt when I didn't get a text from a particular man. It didn't feel good. This only worked to heighten the effect of the trigger he created. I would feel relief when I did hear from him. Relief, another positive trigger was created. It's a bit like Pavlov's dog if you think about it. You can text her in love
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Thursday, July 14, 2011

How To Find Love - Throw Away That Stupid List

Do you want to find love with a great woman? You wonder what list I am talking about? That stupid list in your head that you have of what the woman is supposed to be like, look like and all of that stuff. It's limiting your success at getting what you want and deserve.

I know men who are very specific in their lists. She can't smoke, she must exercise, she must be under 130 pounds, she must be this or that. She can't do this or that. These lists and expectations are killing you, trust me.

I have known men who have the silliest deal breakers. Don't get me wrong, women have them too. Things like she must love animals though? If she doesn't love animals she must be a bad person. Here is a fact, we don't know why people like or don't like certain things until we give them a chance and get to know them.

Example about the not loving animals thing. I am not an animal lover. There is a reason. As a child my mother took all of my animals and dropped them off in random places because she didn't like animals. As a child I learned that to attach to animals was pointless because they would vanish. Does that make me a bad person? Well many a man would not date me, yet they didn't know the entire story because they didn't give me a chance. I have a cat now by the way an am considering a dog.

Love does not always come in the package you had expected. I am not suggesting you settle, no far from it. I am suggesting you may not be able to recognize it if you are one of these people with a list or must haves. Add you list to your fear of rejection or your past experiences that may be clouding you ability to know it when it comes your way and you will never know how to find love.

I am a huge advocate of online dating. I have many a success story of how love was found online. Thing is, men carry that list with them to the online dating and fail again and then blame the women. Do you ever hear yourself saying women only want the bad boys? If so, you might want to rethink this. It's not true. I could go on and on. I do however, believe women do the same things. It's a wonder we ever get together.

If you want to know how to find love, open up to new possibilities. I have a client, he is a biker dude. He was wanting of course a biker chick. The biker chicks just wanted to ride his Harley. I encouraged him to start mailing different types of women. He resisted me in the beginning. Guess what kind of woman he is now in a relationship with? A book worm who has never been on the back of a Harley. They look like a mighty odd couple, but are blissfully happy. Lucky for him this woman was willing to throw away her list as well, but he did have to put some work into her. He says she is worth it all.

Another thing I have to mention if you are looking for love is this. You may need to search inside yourself and make some attitude changes. Men for some reason resist this more so than women. I have proof of this by the way. Women come to me way quicker for help than men do. There are resources out there, really good ones to help you online. Invest in them, do the work. It pays off.

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If you are doing online dating and you just tossed a profile up there, with your list of great qualities and the qualities of your dream woman, don't expect a lot. You really do get back what you put into things. If you want to find love, take it serious. It's not going to come knocking on your door. You have to do some work.

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Monday, July 11, 2011

Sexting Tips - How to Sext Her Into Bed

First, this is geared towards married men or men already in a relationship. Of course the principles will work for men in general wanting to get laid, but that is not something I am a huge advocate, but to each his own.

So often I hear men say or joke about how their women just don't seem to want to have sex like they did when they first met. This happens. The honeymoon phase wears off. It takes more to get the woman turned on. Ever made a move towards your girlfriend or wife to have her go a bit cold or tell you she is tired. She hates doing this, trust me, but she really doesn't feel like it. Does she not initiate or rarely initiate sex anymore? This is really a shame because it doesn't have to be this way, but I can tell you why.

Stress, day to day life gets in the way. A woman's desire sort of goes to sleep. They aren't going to just wake up all on their own, you are going to have to help her some. You need to wake her up.

Men can go from zero to 100 in just minutes because they are visually stimulated. I could walk out of the bedroom with panties on or just heels and my boyfriend would be sitting on ready. It would be instant because men are visually stimulated. This is not the case with women, we aren't visually stimulated.

You can send flowers or buy her gifts, but this isn't going to work either. She is touched and thinks it's sweet, but her carnal sex drive it will not awaken. A woman is stimulated by what she feels and imagines. Her erogenous zone is her mind. Her mind is her biggest sex organ.

What turns a woman on? A man is turned on by porn for the most part. A picture of a man with this raging hard on is not what gets a woman excited and dying to jump your bones. Have you ever read those crazy romance novels? I have. I am not a fan of them, but I will confess, I have become soaking wet from the language that is used in them and the pictures they create in my imagination.

So how to you do this by sexting? You stimulate her biggest sex organ, her mind, imagination and how she feels. By doing this you give her permission to open up her desires to you. Desires that may embarrass her or that she may find difficult to share. If you are the one stimulating her imagination and helping her create these pictures, yes by a few texts, you can turn your sex life around. You can have her dying to get her hands on you regardless.

I recently got a sext message from a guy who has read the sexting book. A few lines flipped my stressed out switch from off to on. He sent this one message. "I can't stop thinking about you this morning". I replied "Why" Now he could have been crude, or highly sexual, but he didn't. He played with my imagination and let me lead the fantasy from there after a few texts. He replied to my why with this. "Your looked delicious in my shirt this morning".

I won't share the rest of this conversation, but let's just say, it escalated. He opened the door and gave me permission so to speak to be bad. If you don't think you can text your woman into bed, I got news for you, you can. Just not like you may think. Sexting tips for men are far different than sexting tips for women, trust me on this one.

Text her into bed tonight.

Wednesday, June 29, 2011

How To Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back

I coach mostly women, I won't lie. I have helped many get their ex boyfriends back by helping them understand how men think. So it's a given I suppose that I already know how women think, plus my ex boyfriend just got me back, so I suppose I can shed a little light here for you.

Generally speaking, I believe exes are exes for a reason, but if you want to know how to get your ex girlfriend back, I will tell you how my ex boyfriend did it.

I broke up with him. He lost his job, he was smothering me to death, and he was holding onto me for dear life. I cut all contact and if he dared to contact, lets say I was less than nice. He was driving me crazy.

So he had to give up or so I thought. He eventually respected my requests and left me alone. He took that time to think about things. He could have said I was cruel to cut him lose at his worst time in his life, but he didn't. He took that time to understand the dynamics and why it panicked me so bad and why I couldn't be a stand by your man woman.

You see, it goes back to the beginning of time. Men are hunters and providers, women are nurturers etc. My survival instinct kicked in and I did not see him as a suitable mate. Your issue may be different and not even close to ours, but stay with me here.

With all the feminist crap and all going on, and I am not knocking it, don't get me wrong. I am queen of independence, but it confuses our God given roles. Basically we women have needs that we want met, the main one being we want to feel safe with you. There are others of course, but safe and protected are high on the list.

Women grieve heavy in the beginning and while I suggest giving her space in the beginning, you can't wait too long to make your move. When a woman moves on, she moves on. She doesn't look back, because she reaches a point where instinct kicks in and she wants a mate that comes after her.

My ex got his crap together and showed up 5 months later. He would send a ping here and there but stopped driving me crazy. It gave me time to process and when he came back, he had fixed what was wrong and was in a place to listen to what I needed from him. Funny thing happened too during our time apart. I never really thought much about him. I was good with him being gone. I wasn't crying and thought, really thought I had done the best thing. But, and here is the but, I didn't really know how strongly I did feel. I had no clue. He had to remind me.

That is what you have to do. Figure out what it is that made her not feel safe, fix it, wait and come back and remind her.

I have to give my ex this credit as well. In his mind he never gave up. His attitude remained positive that he would have me back one day. I think attitude has a lot to do with is success at it. That and his courage that I could have shot him down. He showed up unexpected, completely caught me off guard. I could have cussed him out and that is truly how I would predict it go down, but it didn't. I hugged him instead and the rest is history in the makings.

He never tried to make me feel bad, he never used emotional blackmail on me, he took it like a man and waited for the timing to be right. If you love her, you have to be patient to get her back. No manipulation, no attacks, no making her feel guilt. Those things won't win her back.


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Monday, June 20, 2011

Nice Guys Finish Last

Oh the times I have heard that statement. Nice guys finish last. Why is it that this seems to be the general opinion? I hear it from nice guys all the time. Women would rather be with a man that treats her like crap, hits her, talks her down than a guy who treats her good. I can see some justification in this, yes I can. I see it too in some women, but those aren't the kind of women you want, trust me. Think about it. A woman that allows a man to treat her bad is in a way just as responsible for it as the man treating her bad. Do you really want a woman that has no more love for herself than this? She needs some help that you probably can't give her. Some may slap me for this, but sorry, women have control over how they are treated. They don't have to accept this bad guys into their lives.

So that being said, maybe you nice guys aren't really looking for the nice girls? Is that a possibility? Do you have all these standards in place such as she has to be this height, this weight, she has to be this, she has to be that etc. Are you missing some of the good girls with your criteria or high expectations?

I am a part of few online communities. One where they train the nice guys to be players or pick up artist. Now I know many look down on this, but a funny thing happens to these guys going through this training. They learn what goes on in a woman's mind and they learn how to push her emotional buttons to trigger attraction. Some call it game playing. Bottom line. I have met quite a few of these guys that went through this so called bogus training and let me tell you, they did get it. Not "it", but they finally understood how women form and keep an attraction for a man. A lot of these men have met and now have long term lasting relationships as opposed to a lot of one night stands. They learn how to be a nice guy with that extra edge.

I deal with mostly women so let me tell you why they say nice guys finish last. The attraction isn't usually there with the nice guys. They talk about going on dates, what a nice guy he is but there is no click. Why is this, why can't they like a nice guy? Could this nice guy not really understand what it is that creates attraction in a woman. Trust me, you can be a nice guy and still drive a girl wild. Do nice guys finish last? No, they don't.

Monday, June 13, 2011

My Girlfriend Wants a Break

If your girlfriend wants a break, I only know one way to put this too you and that is straight up. There is a break up ahead if you don't give it to her. If you are saying to your friends or searching this "My girlfriend wants a break", there is trouble ahead.

When your girlfriend wants a break or asks for space what she is saying is she is feeling smothered by you. You are possibly heading somewhere too fast or too soon. I hate to say this part too, but sometimes another guy has caught her attention and she wants the space to explore this but doesn't want to tell you. Cop out? Maybe.

Six months ago I told my boyfriend of 6 months I wanted space. Some of the things he was doing was constantly texting me, wanting to talk every night on the phone, which meant my life as I knew it before was being interrupted. I like my nights out with the girls. He didn't mind that so much, but he wanted to talk to me and would call or text while I was out. I drove me crazy. Thing is he was a great guy.

My love language was different. I need space, I need my other life outside of him and his clinging to me was making me feel quilt and I felt reponsible for his happiness. It became not so fun and it started to bleed over to when we were together.

I asked for space. I explained to him I wouldn't always answer texts or calls if I was working or out having a one on one with my girlfriends, but would call him back. I wanted him to trust me on this. We want to be trusted just like you guys do. By him continuing to push, I didn't feel trusted.

I broke up with him because he wasn't getting it. For the first month after the break up, he kept on pushing. He was coming from a place of his pain. He wanted answers. He didn't understand. The more he did this, the more he validated for me that breaking up with him was a good thing.

About month number 2 or 3, he started stopping contact after eventually I had to get pretty rough and threaten to block him or report him for harassment. I understood he was acting from a place of emotion and not logic, but it wasn't getting him anywhere, he was still smothering me and not respecting my wishes and decision.

Month 4 he stopped all contact. I sort of just forgot about him, but often thought of how much I knew he loved me. Still I pushed it out of my mind as I did not want to go down that road again of having to ask him for a break and fighting that battle again. I was convinced I made the right choice to end it.

Month 6, he shows up after no contact for over 60 days, none, nada zilch. When I saw him all I remembered was the good times to be honest and I was very happy to see him. Very unexpected on my part. His emotions had time to calm. He was more able to see it clearly from my point and I was more clearly to see it from his.

We are talking again. We made a stride towards one another. Had he not crowded me in the fist place and given me, his girlfriend a break, we would very possibly never broke up to start with.

Moral of this story, if your girlfriend asks for space or if you are saying to others my girlfriend wants a break, give it to her. Let her miss you because chances are good she will. Don't question her about it, just accept it and give it to her. You stand a much better chance of keeping her if you do. If you fight it, you will lose her.

So if your girlfriend wants a break, take the time to understand the whys of this, take the precautions to stop that break up that is ahead.

Thursday, March 3, 2011

Love Systems Review

I research many of the dating products out there and recently landed on a forum called "The Attraction Forum". Wow, is all I can say. There are guys there of all ages giving excellent advice and support. The product in my opinion are very realistic and I wish all men would put forth the effort that these guys do to up their dating game.

This isn't like the Don Juan group that seems to promote downgrading women. These guys know their stuff and teach guys how to approach, meet, and keep women. The forum is free and packed with useful information.

The best seller is an e-book called Magic Bullets. It's the basics and well worth the investment especially to those nice guys who get caught in the friend zone.

Tuesday, February 15, 2011

Texting a Woman - What You Don't Know Will Hurt You

Texting a woman is right at your fingertips and it's the most powrful dating tool you have.. If you are like 95% of the men out there, you are probably screwing it up. When it comes to impacting their dating lives, most men are clueless.

I am going to be blunt about this texting thing you men do. I am a moderator on a women's forum. Hundreds and hundreds of women from all over the world have the same view when it comes to men and their texting techniques, they are clueless. When one gets it right, we rant and rave. It may be months down the road and we are still carrying those great text messages around in our phones. We save them.

Men, when texting women are just doing lame communications at most. They aren't engaging the woman or her playful nature. If you are sending anything close to the following text messages, you may wish to carry on reading.

* Good Morning
* Good Morning Sexy
* Good Night
* How is your day
* Hope you are having a good day
* How are you today
* What are you doing
* How is such and such
* Don't work to hard
* I am doing such and such
* I had a good time last night
* Thinking of you

There is nothing in the above messages to engage a woman and build up her attraction. It's usesless ramblings.. Unless a woman is totally smitten with a guy, these messages will just make her eyes roll.

What you don't know is this. While you are sending her those lame messages, there could very well be a guy who is rocking her world with the right words and techniques. It's the guy of mystery, the one that engages our imagination that push our buttons. Some guys can literally leave us hanging on their words.

It's the guy that teases us, banters with us that we find thrilling. It's a simple thing to do, just pay attention and play off of her. Suzanne is a care free, no nonsense southern woman. Her date from the preceding night added one word to his "I had a nice time last night" and made all the difference in the world. He opened the text with Scarlett, as in O'hara. What woman would not want to be seen that way.

She replied calling him Rhett, as in Butler. The flirty play began. That guy knew how to interact with her and push her buttons. She also knew he had paid attention to her. That is hot, to have a man really pay attention. Talk about stroking a woman's ego.

So when texting a woman, leave the small talk conversations out of it. If you can't flirt and be mischievous and make her smile, put down the cell phone, otherwise you are just throwing cold water on top of the fire. You like to condition her to where when she sees it is you texting, she gets excited, and her heart skips a beat. You want to be the guy who she saves his messages.

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Tuesday, January 25, 2011

Calling and Texting Women You Like - This is Critical

When texting or calling a girl you like it's critical that you don't go over board and kill her attraction. Your instinct when you meet a girl that you really like is to reach out and touch her. You want to communicate with her because face it, it feels good. If you want to build attraction though and an emotional connection when texting a girl you like, it's very important that you go easy boy.

An example. Cindy met Don. They really hit if off. Don got Cindy's number and asked her out. They had the first date and there was some mutual chemistry, lots of it. Next morning Don sends Cindy a harmless text. "Good Morning Beautiful". Cindy thinks aw, how sweet. 5 minutes later, he texts her what a great time he had. She still thinks aw, how sweet.

The day goes on, Don sends more texts, tries to engage her in conversation. Wow, Cindy is now wondering if Don isn't maybe a little needy, maybe even desperate. That night he texts her "Good night Sweetie". Her attraction just dropped a few degrees. Women do like to be challenged. When you come running out of the gate full speed ahead, well you took away any challenge or intrigue she might have felt.

She stills gives him the benefit of the doubt and sees him again, but to her horror, the texts just keep getting closer and closer together. The funny sexy guy has turned annoying on her. When texting a girl you like, you want to be flirty, you want to be fun and you don't want to be annoying.

I know you want her to know you are interested and you think those texts are showing her you like her. The fact is all they are showing her is you don't have a life and you are boring. She starts to not answer all of Don's texts, then he starts questioning her. "Are you upset?" "Do you not want to talk to me today?" Texts that show him in a very unattractive not so confident light.

Fast forward a couple of weeks. Cindy has the talk. She tells Don she just wants to be friends. She tells her girlfriends that if he would have just not texted her so much, maybe she would have given him a chance.

Had Don known some really good flirty techniques, this story might have a different ending. Unfortunately, Don is off to repeat the same mistake with the next girl he likes. Texting is a huge attraction killer, but it can be an equally destructive buzz killer. When texting a girl you like, less really is more.

I have swooned and been swooned by some really skilled texters. I have hung on their every text and I have also cringed at the sound of the phone.

Wednesday, January 12, 2011

Be The Jerk Women Love

Why do women love jerks?

This is a question you've probably asked yourself many times in your life. And you might even wonder why women will dump a guy who treats her good, only to go after an arrogant dick!

It seems like guys complain about this problem all the time. I have heard it many times. One of my best guy friends is always whining about how all girls want is to be his friend.
Usually he'll complain about treating a woman REALLY well, but losing her to some schmuck who'll only ends up mistreating her.

So why does this happen?

Well that's a difficult question to answer. The answer is jerks are NOT boring. And there's an interesting explanation of why this is true. But before we get to that, let's talk about the OPPOSITE of the jerk- "The Nice Guy".

In a lot of the chick flicks, "The Nice Guy" was the sweet, caring dude who secretly wanted to be with the Prom Queen. He's clueless with women, but has a heart of gold. And at the very end, the popular girl realizes how wonderful he is AND they live happily ever after.

Unfortunately life doesn't work this way!

In the REAL WORLD, a overly-friendly, nice guy bores the crap out of women. When dealing with a woman, he takes on the role of her friend and listens to her problems and hopes that someday she'll want to be with him instead of the jerk that just broke her heart.

The problem is nice guys reach women on a LOGICAL level, instead of an EMOTIONAL level. He may make a great FRIEND, but he's doing nothing to create sexual attraction.

Women end up with jerks because they provide an emotional charge. Sure he can act like an asshole and hurt her feelings, but he ALSO provides excitement AND arousal. Around a jerk, a woman never really knows what to expect. All she feels is the butterflies and excitement when he is near.

Now there's good news here...EVERY woman has dated a jerk at some point in her life. And from this experience, she's learned that it's not healthy to be around a man like this. However MOST women want that emotional charge WITHOUT the baggage that a jerk often provides. Not an easy task.

In short, she wants a man who is compassionate, but also a little bit of a bad boy.

By understanding a woman's desire for an emotional experience, you provide her with the perfect balance between 'The Nice Guy' and the jerk. When you're talking to women, you want to show ALL the qualities of the jerk (leadership, spontaneity, social dominance and humor) without being the wussy nice guy that typically repulses women.

In other words, you can use your conversation skills to playfully tease a woman, while keeping the comfort level she would find with "The Nice Guy".

This is called "Assumed Familiarity". Here you'll act like her buddy by teasing her in a friendly manner, but at the same time, you're subtly showing her attractive qualities that she wants in a man.

Now this can be a hard concept for many guys to grasp. It's pretty hard to strike that delicate balance between the jerk and nice guy. Most of it involves creating emotional attraction without being perceived as being a jerk.

Monday, January 3, 2011

How to Call a Girl You Like

Rule number one, less is more. Trust me, an attractive quality girl gets called and texted a lot. She has experienced lots of guys who go overboard and present no challenge at all. It's really easy for a hot girl to attract men. It's not so easy for an attractive, hot, quality girl to find a guy that piques her interest. Trust me on this. This is critical especially in the beginning stages. This is when the attraction starts or stops.

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When texting and calling girls, if you go overboard, she is going to see you as desperate. You want to convey you have a life and although you like her, she is not the center of your world. Women love a mystery. When calling girls or texting girls, the less you do it, the more her imagination goes into play and the more mysterious you will be. Mystery builds attraction. I don't mean go days or weeks without calling, that is just plain stupid. If you really like her though, your instinct leads you to call her more. Resist this. Call her less.

Ever noticed how it seems the less interesting not so high quality girls seem to fall all over you at times. Think about it. How are you texting them? Probably not so enthusiastically. This intrigues them and they want you more. So when calling a girl that you like or that is hot or high quality do it as if she was just another ordinary girl you aren't so into.

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Rule number 2, don't call or text her and have nothing to say. You want to make her smile. You want her to associate your calls and texts with positive feelings. You want to create an anchor to these positive feelings. The anchor is going to be the phone ringing and her seeing your name pop up. Don't bore her, be funny and confident. If you don't have a lot to say, well get off the phone or stop texting. End the conversation, have your escape route already in place before you call. This also puts mystery into it when you end the conversation first. Leave her wanting more.

Now confidence is a big thing when calling a girl. If you are calling all the time again, this is not good. It shows her you aren't confident enough in yourself and that you need her constant validation. That is why less is more. If you call every other day for example, well apparently you are confident in yourself, otherwise you would be ringing her phone off the hook. Sometimes it's more in what you don't say or do that speaks the volumes.

When calling a girl or texting a girl, remember, she is just a girl. If she is a high quality girl or hot girl, well she is still just a girl. This is the attitude to have. Remember that women do like a challenge, so don't be too easy. The key is to get her thinking about you. You want to master the calling and texting girls to get her to think about you when you aren't around. Once a girl starts thinking about you, well she is hooked.

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