How to Meet Women On Facebook

First note the title says "How to meet women on facebook", not "how to pick up women on facebook".  The pick up artist communities can tell you how to pick up women if sex is your goal.  In truth I could tell you how to do that too, but I am just not gonna.  ;-)

If you are a single guy, meeting women online is an option.  It's actually a good one, there are many success stories out there.  If you are looking at facebook as a way to meet women though, first you are going to need patience.  This is not an instant satisfaction process.  It's more long term gratification.  It is rare that you meet a new lady friend on facebook and find yourself on a date with here within days.

I can assure you a smart, emotionally healthy, woman gets more than her share of attention on facebook.  They get emails just out of the blue asking to get to know her, telling her she is hot and the list goes on and on.  This is not a good way to meet women, just sending her random emails, no matter how clever you think they are.  Posting a comment to everyone of her posts isn't effective either.  That is borderline stalking.  So how do you do it?

It's a process.  You start by broadening your circle of friends.  You have to start paying attention also.  Paying attention is great practice by the way for when you do finally meet a great gal.  When I say paying attention that means logging on and watching the posts of others.  Gravitate towards like minded individuals.  Interact on the walls of others and become conscious of their friends.  Doesn't matter if it's male or female.  If you find a friend of a friend that posts things that appeal to you, add them.  They have like minded friends, I promise, of the opposite sex. 

Don't be scared to add females as friends.  If she doesn't accept, it's okay, another one will come along.  Just keep broadening your network.  Interact and comment.  Get involved in the conversations.  If a female comes on and says something that you like in the comments, post it on the thread and say so.  Big tip, use her name and address her personally in public (don't mail her).  It's human nature to love recognition by the way.   This gets her attention. 

Now you don't want to continuously call her out every time you see her on facebook.   This is too obvious and a quality woman will recognize this and become suspicious.  Women are by the way very suspicious in nature.  We suspect every man that goes even a bit overboard on us wants to sleep with us.  The reason we are this way is because you men have trained us that this is usually true. 

So you have to wait for another opportunity.  It will come, especially if you are focusing your efforts on just meeting women in general and not one particular woman.  You can see this is why meeting women on facebook is not an instant gratification thing and takes patience. 

The next step is once you have her attention is to throw in some flirts or statements that could be questioned if you could have meant something else, when the opportunity presents itself.  The double meaning thing.  Flirting on facebook should be fun.  Picking on women in a playful subtle way is pretty powerful.  Less is more, really it is. 

Summary here is to just interact and pay attention.  Don't just pop into a woman's inbox with no back ground to build on.  On the comments and threads you build the foundation.  This could take weeks or even months.  After the foundation is down, then you can go to asking her out.  There is something to be said about being patient.  It's self control.  I can assure you self control is a very very sexy trait to have. 

Also by not jumping into meeting her right away tells her something else about you.  It tells her you are selective.  This appeals to her.  The pick up artist communities spend a lot of time on this point.  The qualifying stage.  You are qualifying her.  This propels a reaction in women.  They often then begin to qualify themselves.

All in all I don't knock the pick up artist communities.  They have their good points.  Many a man has come to a better understanding of how the female mind works in these communities.  I am an advocate of using what they learn to actually meet and treat women well.  Not so much if it's being used just to get sex if you get my drift.  Of course I am a woman.

So meeting women on facebook as an option in your dating life. Have fun doing it.  No pressure, no mission, just meeting and interaction with women on facebook.  You might be surprised what happens.

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Text Yourself Out of the Friend Zone!

Tired of hearing "I just want to be friends or you are like a brother to me"?  It happens, but if it keeps happening to you with the girl you like there is hope and it's so simple.  You can use text messages to heighten a girl's attraction and change her perception of you from friend to lover.

What is it that the bad boys do that get the girls.  Have you ever been one of those guys who was crazy about a girl who was crazy about a bad boy.  You probably thought you could bring her around by treating her nice and being a good guy.  It only makes sense right? 

Wrong.  She is already addicted to the adrenaline rush of the bad boy.  It's become her normal.  So when you come along being all nice and treating her the way she really should be treated, it doesn't feel normal to her.  This sounds crazy I know, but it's true.  There is no rule that says what feels normal has to be normal.

So to avoid getting in the friend zone, you may need to adopt a few bad boy behaviors and you can do this with text messages.  I am not saying to be a bad boy.  You can still be a nice guy and treat her well, but first you have to get her attention.  You can use a few techniqes in texting a girl to be effective at this.  The bad boys have many options therefore they don't prioritize one girl.  If a girl texts them, they don't always answer right away.  This tells the girl she may have some competition and this makes the bad boy more desireable.
 
What I am saying is to text the girls that see you as friends like they are girls you really aren't interested in that much.  Like you could take them or leave them.  You can prolong responding or you can not contact for a few days.  Let their imaginations wonder.  A woman falls in love in her imagination.  Think long term satisfaction over instant gratification.

The bad boys also tease and present themselves in a text as her hero in the nick of time.  You can learn these techniques, and still be a nice guy and get the girl.  Only difference in you and the bad boy is you will have what it takes to keep the girl because in fact you do know how to treat her.

You see you have to change her perception of normal slowly.  You can do this in how and what you text a girl.  I know guys who have swooned and got the girl by upping their texting game alone.  It's up to you. 

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Text Her In The Mood

It's a common complaint from men.  Their wives or girlfriends aren't in the mood for sex.  While it's true that the stresses of life get in the way, not all is lost.  I am sure you know that sex for a woman is in her mind to a degree, yet it's her mind that keeps her out of the mood.

In other words you walking up behind her groping on her while she is in the kitchen will not get her aroused.  To get a woman aroused you have to get her out of her mind or the negative state she is in.  Once you get her out of her mind, you get in her mind and she gets into her physical body which is the body that wants sex.

So how do you do this and get her in the mood?  Being a woman I can tell you if I feel pressured to have sex, I won't enjoy it.  If I have sex because a man makes me feel guilty that I am not meeting his needs, it will cause resentment to build.  I will stop enjoying sex because it feels like an obligation.  This is what causes many women to stay out of the mood.  The stress of the pressure from their partners.  They associate sex with feelings of inadequacy. 

If you want to get her in the mood, you must take this pressure off.  To connect in the bedroom she must connect with you out of the bedroom.  She can't just turn the switch to turned on quite like you can. Hold her hand when you go anywhere together.  Touch her without being sexual.  Women love nice words, give her a few compliments.  Do this at random and you will see a slow change. These are just little things you can do to get her in the mood.

The creative thing that you may not even ever think about is to get the romance going during the day through text messages.  If you are like most couples you text things like what's for dinner, will you pick up some mild and so forth and so on.  Women are moved by words, so text her something that will get her attention, and no not a picture of your penis.  Tell her something like you can't stop thinking about how she looked this morning in her nightie or about the way she smells.  Be a bit risque.  Catch her off guard and you will get her out of her own head.

Text back the romance is a great way to get her in the mood.  Use it to build up anticipation and watch the different woman you come home to.  Texting can act as a trigger to get her out of her head and distract her and catch her off guard.

Calling Women

There was a discussion taking place on my wall on facebook.  It seems that more and more women are experiencing men giving them their phone numbers and asking the women to call them.  Do you guys not get it?  We don't really feel comfortable calling men.  It doesn't make us feel special at all.  If you can't make the effort to make us feel special with a phone call, then we aren't going to likely fall in love with you.  Not emotionally, relationship ready women that is.  If it's a hook up you are looking for, go ahead and try this, it may work.

As young girls when a guy we liked would call us we would call all our girlfriends and scream with delight.  Now that we are grown, sure we matured, but that girl is still in there wanting to scream with delight.  Don't deny her this thrill by expecting her to call you.  A friend on facebook put it in a remarkable way.  See Below:

Most men don't understand that a woman loves to feel cherished and adored by a man. When he takes the time to CALL HER, this very simple act begins the perpetual motion machine of love that so few men seem to know how to run. I just don't get it!! 

A lot of the dating gurus out there teach this giving of your number as a technique to make her feel comfort and to feel safe.  While I agree with a lot of these dating gurus and think they do in fact make a lot of sense, this one rule needs to go out the window in my opinion.  There are some women that just refuse to call a man.  It's nothing to do with playing hard to get.  It just does the opposite of making us comfortable when the time comes to pick up the phone.  We aren't comfortable with it.   We pick the phone up, we put it back down.  We wait, then try again later and it just sucks.  

Your role is the pursuer, you are the MAN, please don't screw it up.  I know the feminist movement and equal rights has you all a bit confused, but women want to feel like women.  When I am picking up the phone to call a man, I don't feel like a woman.  If I don't feel feminine or like a woman, my attraction is not going to go very far, on that you can bank.  When it comes to calling women, just do it!

So when it comes to calling women, please suck it up, get her number and call her.  If you want to wait the proverbial 3 days to not seem desperate, fine.  By all means though, step up into your masculine role.  I hear young boys bragging about how many girls they have texting and calling them.  Put your man briefs on and pick up the phone. 


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How To Get a Second Date With Her

The first few dates are when you lay the ground work for her attraction to build.  You landed a first date, now can you land a second date.  If you aren't sure if the first date got her attention, be very careful in how you go about getting the second date.  You don't want to overwhelm her, you don't want to be needy or desperate.  You want to come off as confident.  It's always the gentleman thing to do to thank her for the first date.  A text, a quick phone call will do.  Don't make the second date yet though.

I know you may think this is playing games, but really how women form attraction is important here.  She won't be attracted to a man who is too eager.  That is why it's best to wait a few days before asking her out for a second date.  Give her time to wonder if in fact you were or were not into her.  Then when you contact her for that second date she feels relief because you just might be into her after all.  This plants a seed for attraction to grow.  Women love a confident man and by waiting you show her you are confident that yes she does want to see you again.  You are confident, yet not clingy or coming across as needy.

Have a plan when you do ask her out for a second date.  Hopefully you paid attention on the first date and have an idea of what she would like to do.  Don't ask her to pick the place, you pick the place.  Interactive dates are best at building attraction.  No movie date please.  Bowling, a picnic, a walk, anything but a movie.  Have the plan already, a woman likes a man who can take charge.  Just purrrr at that one.

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Don't call her every night after the first date either.  Less is more, always.  Calling her every night lets her know that you have already made up your mind about her.  What are you, easy?  No I think not.  A woman will think about you when she isn't in as much contact.  If she is liking you, pacing her will only make her attraction grow.  If you want that second date, now is the time to play it cool. 

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Flakey Women

I hear it all the time.  Women are flakes.  I hear it more from good guys than I do the bad boy types.  This is interesting to me and I can only speculate why that is.  I think the bad boys have a sense of abundancy more than a good guy.  A good guy thinks good women are hard to find.  Good being the key work that I will touch on in a moment.  A bad boy just moves on from the flake and doesn't really give it much thought.  A good guy keeps trying.

What I mean here is this and I have seen it a lot.  A guy goes on a date with a woman.  He asks her out again soon and she says, sure, call me next week and we will set something up.  So he calls.  She tells him she has this and that going on this weekend, maybe next weekend.  They eventually may make a date and she breaks it.  In other words she won't lock down plans with you.  You keep giving her the benefit of the doubt, after all we are busy humans these days.  Yet a month goes by and all you have had is one date a lot of promises. This is more than likely a flake.  Your first clue should have been when she wouldn't pin down a date right away and put you off.  She isn't that into you.  A woman into you would have encouraged you and set the date and actually shown up.

I will tell a man just like I tell a woman about men that disappear.  Forget her.  She isn't ready for a relationship or she just isn't into you.  Move on to a woman that is.  There are good women out there that are not flakes.  Women that are looking for someone like you.  You can't find these women as long as you keep wasting your time on flakes.

I know so many men who will meet a woman and close all options just in hopes that it might work out.  They invest time into making it work while she isn't investing the same effort.  Time goes by and they hear "lets be friends".  Sigh....When a woman says she just wants to be friends, she is not attracted to you.  It's that simple.

If you find yourself complaining about all these flakey women, I suggest you stop accepting these women into your life.  It's just as much your fault for not being able to recognize a flake and just as much your fault if you try to spend time with a woman who is not ready for a relationship if a relationship is what you want.

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Why She Is Never In The Mood

Michael Fiore says it all in this video about how to turn even the coldest woman to Hot!  Michael was on the Rachael Raye show amazing audiences.