Girls don't go to bars looking to pick up guys as a rule. They go out to have fun with their girlfriends, have a few drinks and get dressed up and wear the new pair of shoes they just bought at the mall. They know they will get hit on and they usually sit around with their chick friends and make fun of all the lame pick up lines that guys use. Next time just look at that table of giggling girls. You can bet they are sharing some lame guy story. If you really want to pick up girls in bars or just get their number, you have to stand out. Not always easy to do.
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Their defenses are already up because of the other guys that have been hitting on them. The competition is fierce when you are attempting to pick up girls in bars. It's like 3 to 1, guys on girls. This means that before you even approached there were probably others before you and she knows there will be others when you are gone. Her defenses are already up and it's really hard to stand out in the crowd when her mindset is already made up that men are all creeps.
A guy would love to be able to call his buddies the next day and tell how he picked up this really hot chick. Guys brag about picking up girls in bars, no doubt. Keep in mind this is not usually the goal of the girl. She wants to be able to call her girls the next day and talk about how she met this really great, funny guy who was different from the rest. He got her phone number and now she is anticipating his call. The white horse story so to speak.
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In order to be successful with girls in bars, it is really important that you understand their mindset and how they think. They are emotional creatures and to be able to get past her guard, you really have to learn the skills of how to push those buttons. If you want to pick up a girls in bars, by all means it's possible with the right tools.
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Thursday, September 30, 2010
Monday, September 27, 2010
Online Dating Profile Advice for Men
Below is a Newsletter I received from Mimi Tanner, a well know author of relationship books for women. I thought it was interesting and I thought you guys should read it. A lot of truth in it. I am telling you again, lots of girls/women out there. What on earth is the problem? I hope to shed a little light. I am sure by the way that this does work both ways. Women do the below too.
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Many men feel that one of the most
important things they should tell
you in their online dating profiles
is that they have a sense of humor.
The trouble is, they feel that they
must be ADAMANT about it - they
must INSIST that they have one, in
case you don't believe them!
The more they insist, the less I
believe in their so-called sense
of humor!
Many men's online dating profiles
say something like this:
"I have an incredible sense of humor.
I really do, no matter what people
think. I'm like Woody Allen but
better. I'm telling you, my sense
of humor is fantastic, you freaking
hag!!"
Okay, I'm exaggerating, but here's
what I mean:
First of all, just because a man
says he has a sense of humor, that
does not mean that he really has one.
It doesn't mean he would even
recognize a Sense of Humor if
it bit him...
Second, I'm not sure why men think
that just because they say they
have a sense of humor, you're going
to believe it!
I believe it when they say they
have a dog; but when they say they
have a sense of humor and then they
feel the need to go one or two steps
further to INSIST that they have a
sense of humor, then I get suspicious!
One time, when I was looking
at guys' profiles in an online
dating site, I noticed one with a
photo that appealed to me. The man
sounded intelligent. His profile
was good.
However, he did make quite a point
that he had a sense of humor!! He
was SURE about that...
He also said, "I see the glass
as half full."
I had just read several profiles
which referred to how men "see the
glass" (zzzzzzzz). The "glass half
full or half empty" is already a
cliche, but I think that was one of
the suggestions this site made to
people as a way to describe themselves
in their profile. So I had already
read several profiles of men who
stated - of course - that they
see the glass as half full. (I
mean, any other answer is "wrong,"
because that would be "too negative"
even if it was honest...!)
This site just made it too easy
to shoot the guy a little note...
and since I wasn't trying to "find
a guy" but wanted some distraction,
I sent him a quick message.
I wrote, "I see the glass as spilled."
I also added, "That's a great picture!"
or some quick compliment on his photo.
The next day, this man wrote back
to me, "You see the glass as spilled
because of the people you surround
yourself with..."
Okay... so much for that sense of
humor!
Then he went on to tell me more about
WHY I see the glass as spilled and
how I can fix that. (Does he know
who I "surround myself with"?)
Then he added, "I'm sure your picture
is great too."
Oh, no! Strike two - the man feels
sorry for me. Well, yes, I do have
a very good picture (that was not
shown on the site by choice).
The photo comment wasn't a terrible
comment or a dealbreaker - it was
at least well intended - but the
man actually took my joke seriously
and then proceeded to give me advice.
He definitely didn't have the claimed
"sense of humor" - or not one that
would work for me.
That's one of the nice things about
online dating - you can prove to
yourself that what I'm telling
you is true - men do not respond
well to women who approach them
first.
When it doesn't matter, you can
be freer to test the Online Dating
waters and learn more about flirting
and about how men think.
It didn't matter how this man responded
since I wasn't trying to date the guy,
but it proved that when it comes
to online dating, men still respond
best when THEY approach YOU first.
It doesn't matter how wonderful you are,
at all - so don't let it get to your
ego if men misread you when you contact
them first!
Even if you turned out to be Jennifer
Lopez - most men are suspicious - and
they will assume that there must be
something "a-miss" about any woman who
"needs to" (they will infer) contact
a guy first!
Yes, that's their mistake - I know that.
But that IS the way it is. I didn't make
the biology! This is just the way it
works 99% of the time!
So my short-term dilemma was,
how should I respond to this man
without insulting his ego, the
one that thinks he has a great
sense of humor...?
Choice 1 - do not respond.
Choice 2 - respond but nicely.
I chose Choice 2 - I wrote "That
was a joke. :)"
If I hadn't included the smile,
it would have been insulting...
it would have been extremely rude
to say, "I thought you said you had
a sense of humor...!!!" I would
never say something like that, and
I trust you wouldn't either!!
What SHOULD you say about your
sense of humor in your profile?
Apparently it's like having all
your immunizations. You almost HAVE
TO mention it, like a requirement.
Some men may think that if you don't
say that you have a sense of humor,
then you must not have one. (A guy
like that is probably not your
mental equal... move on to the
next guy if they take things too
literally! And many men do!)
So it's a good idea to mention that
you have a sense of humor. But here's
an important caution for men and
women:
Don't ever try to "prove" that you have
a sense of humor by making a "joke" in
your profile, because this usually
backfires
For example, I was reading a man's
profile that sounded pretty good.
Of course, the guy said he had
a sense of humor. (No, really??)
Then near the end of a lengthy
paragraph or two, he said, "I'm
here because my blow-up doll is
out of order. I just wanted to
see who actually is still reading
this far."
UGH - that's a sense of humor?
That's more like a dealbreaker,
"humor" or not. YUK. This is a man
who does not understand the first
thing about women and who therefore
probably needs a plastic ladyfriend,
so NEXT... anyone who did read that
far was SO glad she did!!
That's a VERY good example of
trying to display a "sense of
humor" and having it "blow up"
on you.
Humor is something that will show
up in your interactions very
soon once you start talking. So
there's no sense trying to
PROVE that you have a sense of
humor in your profile!! Humor
is highly personal and individual
anyway - and jokes can be easily
misunderstood - as my own
experience certainly showed
when I made a joke - or thought
I did - to one of the thousands
of men who have a "great sense
of humor"!
Online dating DOES work! But don't
go into it without knowing how
it works.
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Many men feel that one of the most
important things they should tell
you in their online dating profiles
is that they have a sense of humor.
The trouble is, they feel that they
must be ADAMANT about it - they
must INSIST that they have one, in
case you don't believe them!
The more they insist, the less I
believe in their so-called sense
of humor!
Many men's online dating profiles
say something like this:
"I have an incredible sense of humor.
I really do, no matter what people
think. I'm like Woody Allen but
better. I'm telling you, my sense
of humor is fantastic, you freaking
hag!!"
Okay, I'm exaggerating, but here's
what I mean:
First of all, just because a man
says he has a sense of humor, that
does not mean that he really has one.
It doesn't mean he would even
recognize a Sense of Humor if
it bit him...
Second, I'm not sure why men think
that just because they say they
have a sense of humor, you're going
to believe it!
I believe it when they say they
have a dog; but when they say they
have a sense of humor and then they
feel the need to go one or two steps
further to INSIST that they have a
sense of humor, then I get suspicious!
One time, when I was looking
at guys' profiles in an online
dating site, I noticed one with a
photo that appealed to me. The man
sounded intelligent. His profile
was good.
However, he did make quite a point
that he had a sense of humor!! He
was SURE about that...
He also said, "I see the glass
as half full."
I had just read several profiles
which referred to how men "see the
glass" (zzzzzzzz). The "glass half
full or half empty" is already a
cliche, but I think that was one of
the suggestions this site made to
people as a way to describe themselves
in their profile. So I had already
read several profiles of men who
stated - of course - that they
see the glass as half full. (I
mean, any other answer is "wrong,"
because that would be "too negative"
even if it was honest...!)
This site just made it too easy
to shoot the guy a little note...
and since I wasn't trying to "find
a guy" but wanted some distraction,
I sent him a quick message.
I wrote, "I see the glass as spilled."
I also added, "That's a great picture!"
or some quick compliment on his photo.
The next day, this man wrote back
to me, "You see the glass as spilled
because of the people you surround
yourself with..."
Okay... so much for that sense of
humor!
Then he went on to tell me more about
WHY I see the glass as spilled and
how I can fix that. (Does he know
who I "surround myself with"?)
Then he added, "I'm sure your picture
is great too."
Oh, no! Strike two - the man feels
sorry for me. Well, yes, I do have
a very good picture (that was not
shown on the site by choice).
The photo comment wasn't a terrible
comment or a dealbreaker - it was
at least well intended - but the
man actually took my joke seriously
and then proceeded to give me advice.
He definitely didn't have the claimed
"sense of humor" - or not one that
would work for me.
That's one of the nice things about
online dating - you can prove to
yourself that what I'm telling
you is true - men do not respond
well to women who approach them
first.
When it doesn't matter, you can
be freer to test the Online Dating
waters and learn more about flirting
and about how men think.
It didn't matter how this man responded
since I wasn't trying to date the guy,
but it proved that when it comes
to online dating, men still respond
best when THEY approach YOU first.
It doesn't matter how wonderful you are,
at all - so don't let it get to your
ego if men misread you when you contact
them first!
Even if you turned out to be Jennifer
Lopez - most men are suspicious - and
they will assume that there must be
something "a-miss" about any woman who
"needs to" (they will infer) contact
a guy first!
Yes, that's their mistake - I know that.
But that IS the way it is. I didn't make
the biology! This is just the way it
works 99% of the time!
So my short-term dilemma was,
how should I respond to this man
without insulting his ego, the
one that thinks he has a great
sense of humor...?
Choice 1 - do not respond.
Choice 2 - respond but nicely.
I chose Choice 2 - I wrote "That
was a joke. :)"
If I hadn't included the smile,
it would have been insulting...
it would have been extremely rude
to say, "I thought you said you had
a sense of humor...!!!" I would
never say something like that, and
I trust you wouldn't either!!
What SHOULD you say about your
sense of humor in your profile?
Apparently it's like having all
your immunizations. You almost HAVE
TO mention it, like a requirement.
Some men may think that if you don't
say that you have a sense of humor,
then you must not have one. (A guy
like that is probably not your
mental equal... move on to the
next guy if they take things too
literally! And many men do!)
So it's a good idea to mention that
you have a sense of humor. But here's
an important caution for men and
women:
Don't ever try to "prove" that you have
a sense of humor by making a "joke" in
your profile, because this usually
backfires
For example, I was reading a man's
profile that sounded pretty good.
Of course, the guy said he had
a sense of humor. (No, really??)
Then near the end of a lengthy
paragraph or two, he said, "I'm
here because my blow-up doll is
out of order. I just wanted to
see who actually is still reading
this far."
UGH - that's a sense of humor?
That's more like a dealbreaker,
"humor" or not. YUK. This is a man
who does not understand the first
thing about women and who therefore
probably needs a plastic ladyfriend,
so NEXT... anyone who did read that
far was SO glad she did!!
That's a VERY good example of
trying to display a "sense of
humor" and having it "blow up"
on you.
Humor is something that will show
up in your interactions very
soon once you start talking. So
there's no sense trying to
PROVE that you have a sense of
humor in your profile!! Humor
is highly personal and individual
anyway - and jokes can be easily
misunderstood - as my own
experience certainly showed
when I made a joke - or thought
I did - to one of the thousands
of men who have a "great sense
of humor"!
Online dating DOES work! But don't
go into it without knowing how
it works.
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Sunday, September 19, 2010
Boldly Flirt with a Girl with Text Messaging
The great thing about flirting with text messages is you can really put some thought into your texts and replies. You are not face to face having to be quick witted. It doesn't matter what you are wearing or if you have even had a shower and shave. She won't know, all she has to know is how you can make her feel with your texts. When you flirt with a text message, you want to push her emotional buttons and get her hooked. This is done through teasing.
Stop wasting your time sending her all those compliments. Yes they are nice, and we often think they are sweet, but they are not what builds up the sexual tension and initial attraction. If you are going to flirt with girl by a text, tease her. Girls like to be teased. Think back to the days on the playground. We would pretend to get all mad, but really we were loving it when you pulled our pigtails. When texting a girl, think grade school.
So if you are going to flirt with a text message, tease her, pick at her. Use something like an inside joke that you share. Pick at her about a habit she has. Tell her she is such a bad girl. Be a bit naughty but not distasteful. Don't be shy, be bold. Girls love bold confident guys. Flirting with text messages should be fun and upbeat, not serious and boring.
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Another teasing technique in texting girls is to wait to reply. Don't give her an answer right away. Let her hang there a little while. She starts to wonder are you going to reply and just when she is getting frustrated, you come through. She feels relief and this creates a trigger in her. Do it a few times and she will start to associate your replies with a sense of relief. Like Pavlov's dog sort of. Train her emotions with your flirty texts. There is way more to it than the words you send when you want to flirt with a girl via texting.
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Stop wasting your time sending her all those compliments. Yes they are nice, and we often think they are sweet, but they are not what builds up the sexual tension and initial attraction. If you are going to flirt with girl by a text, tease her. Girls like to be teased. Think back to the days on the playground. We would pretend to get all mad, but really we were loving it when you pulled our pigtails. When texting a girl, think grade school.
So if you are going to flirt with a text message, tease her, pick at her. Use something like an inside joke that you share. Pick at her about a habit she has. Tell her she is such a bad girl. Be a bit naughty but not distasteful. Don't be shy, be bold. Girls love bold confident guys. Flirting with text messages should be fun and upbeat, not serious and boring.
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Another teasing technique in texting girls is to wait to reply. Don't give her an answer right away. Let her hang there a little while. She starts to wonder are you going to reply and just when she is getting frustrated, you come through. She feels relief and this creates a trigger in her. Do it a few times and she will start to associate your replies with a sense of relief. Like Pavlov's dog sort of. Train her emotions with your flirty texts. There is way more to it than the words you send when you want to flirt with a girl via texting.
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Thursday, September 16, 2010
Online Profile Tips for Men
First of the dating profile tips for men would be no negatives. We don't want to hear about how bad you were treated by the women before us. This tells us you have some serious baggage and chances are good you are not over the "ex" yet. We assume you don't want to play games, so why put that in your profile? That really is a no brainer. Seriously have you ever seen an online dating profile that said, "I love to play games"?
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Second of the dating profile tips for men would be cut all the crap about how honest, warm, loving sincere, loyal and wonderful you are. Honestly almost every profile says this and it gets quite mundane. We have read that so much that we just skip over the part hoping that somewhere in the next paragraph you will have say something interesting.
Third of the dating profile tips for men would be leave out your cars, boats, motorcycles and airplanes. Materialistic are you? Such a turn off. Who cares? If women are responding to you because of your worldly possessions, really is that what you want? Also, please leave your shirt on, leave something for our imagination, we are not the visually stimulated creatures that you are. We connect on an emotional level.
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So what's left, we don't want your baggage, we don't want your wonderful qualities nor your material possessions, so what do we want. We want humor, and interesting. We don't mind knowing your taste in music and maybe what you like to do for fun. We want to know are you stable or maybe a bit on the wild side. What we want is a glimpse of your personality. Not some superficial words.
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Women are now approaching men more and more on dating sites making that first move. The picture helps, but when it comes to online dating, it's the profile we pay attention to. I might be doing a search and run across a divine hunk, but if his profile is lame, well I go next. Your profile is your first impression, don't blow it.
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Second of the dating profile tips for men would be cut all the crap about how honest, warm, loving sincere, loyal and wonderful you are. Honestly almost every profile says this and it gets quite mundane. We have read that so much that we just skip over the part hoping that somewhere in the next paragraph you will have say something interesting.
Third of the dating profile tips for men would be leave out your cars, boats, motorcycles and airplanes. Materialistic are you? Such a turn off. Who cares? If women are responding to you because of your worldly possessions, really is that what you want? Also, please leave your shirt on, leave something for our imagination, we are not the visually stimulated creatures that you are. We connect on an emotional level.
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So what's left, we don't want your baggage, we don't want your wonderful qualities nor your material possessions, so what do we want. We want humor, and interesting. We don't mind knowing your taste in music and maybe what you like to do for fun. We want to know are you stable or maybe a bit on the wild side. What we want is a glimpse of your personality. Not some superficial words.
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Women are now approaching men more and more on dating sites making that first move. The picture helps, but when it comes to online dating, it's the profile we pay attention to. I might be doing a search and run across a divine hunk, but if his profile is lame, well I go next. Your profile is your first impression, don't blow it.
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Wednesday, September 15, 2010
Making a First Impression on a Dating Site
The first impression is critical. Your picture is important. Make sure it is a close up and it is clear. If you choose to add other pictures to your profile, consider adding ones where you are doing something you enjoy. No pictures of pets, landscape scenes or other women, regardless if it's you daughter, mother or aunt. Women are turned off by pictures of you with other women. One of the best tips for internet dating for men is have a picture. A close up and one full body is best. Also, please remeber we women are not as visually stimulated as you men are. We would prefer you keep your shirt on for now. We really do find that shallow and tacky.
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Your words in your profile are very important. It would not help to do a reverse search and view the profiles of other men. By seeing profiles of other men you can get a good idea how to stand out above the others. 98% of male profiles start out with something like how honest, loving, sincere, hardworking and so on and so forth a man is. As opposed to what? Dishonest, hateful, deceitful and lazy? These qualities do not need to be pointed out. Your personality should shine in your online profile. She should be motivated by your words to learn more about you. Women are going to assume you are all of those thing, we sure hope so.
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That first email is critical. I am a woman active on a dating site and I can't tell you how many times I find myself rolling my eyes. A lot of men either send something lame like "Ya wanna chat?", or "How are you", or even a lame "hi". This does nothing for me or any other woman for that matter. Then there are the men that enter our inboxes trying to sell themselves. I am this and I am that. I will treat you like a Queen. I will give you massages and candlelit dinners. Please spare us, we are not buying a car. We are looking for creative interesting men. Are you out there? A male online profile should pique our interest, not bore us to tears.
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Online dating sites really are a great way to meet women. It is different than meeting in person. You have to relay a lot through words and there is no voice in the beginning or visual stimulus. Be careful with your words, it's easy to misinterpret them online. That means one thing, it is up to you and the words you choose to make an impression and create an attraction. The goal is to get the woman inspired and create a desire in her to meet you.
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Your words in your profile are very important. It would not help to do a reverse search and view the profiles of other men. By seeing profiles of other men you can get a good idea how to stand out above the others. 98% of male profiles start out with something like how honest, loving, sincere, hardworking and so on and so forth a man is. As opposed to what? Dishonest, hateful, deceitful and lazy? These qualities do not need to be pointed out. Your personality should shine in your online profile. She should be motivated by your words to learn more about you. Women are going to assume you are all of those thing, we sure hope so.
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That first email is critical. I am a woman active on a dating site and I can't tell you how many times I find myself rolling my eyes. A lot of men either send something lame like "Ya wanna chat?", or "How are you", or even a lame "hi". This does nothing for me or any other woman for that matter. Then there are the men that enter our inboxes trying to sell themselves. I am this and I am that. I will treat you like a Queen. I will give you massages and candlelit dinners. Please spare us, we are not buying a car. We are looking for creative interesting men. Are you out there? A male online profile should pique our interest, not bore us to tears.
Click Here to discover how to have 7 Dates or more this month with attractive women
Online dating sites really are a great way to meet women. It is different than meeting in person. You have to relay a lot through words and there is no voice in the beginning or visual stimulus. Be careful with your words, it's easy to misinterpret them online. That means one thing, it is up to you and the words you choose to make an impression and create an attraction. The goal is to get the woman inspired and create a desire in her to meet you.
Click Here to discover how to have 7 Dates or more this month with attractive women
Monday, August 30, 2010
How to Keep Her Interested
So she is interested, you have been on a few dates and you like her. What is it that keeps a woman interested and keeps her out of the friend zone. Nothing worse than going on several dates, and you sense her back peddling. You are about to hear those words, "can we be just friends".
If you want to keep her interested, don't be over anxious. Keep a little distance in the beginning. Women like consistent contact, but don't go over board. A phone call once a day or every couple days is good. Toss in a text every now and then. If she texts you, don't be so eager to respond. You set the pace by the way you initiate and respond to contact. You stay in control here, women love men in control.
If you are really liking her and you feel the urge to tell her, hold up. Don't spill the beans so fast. Let her wonder how much you like her. If you just told a girl you really like her and she doesn't respond or drift out to space, slow down boy. She ain't there yet and she won't get there if you start gushing. Instead of spilling, give her a well thought out compliment. One compliment every now and then is enough. Women crave validation, but they also like a challenge. Keep the compliments well spaced, it adds allure. Allure will keep her interested.
If you want to keep her interested, treat her good when you are with her. Quality women will walk in a skinny minute when treated in a mediocre manner. Little things go a long way. If her beer is empty, by all means, order another, don't make her ask. Pour her wine for her. Take care of her so to speak. It lets her know you are paying attention and that is just hot to a woman. Again though, don't over do it.
Less is more. Moving too fast and giving too much too soon takes all the mystery away. Women are into a mysterious man. They find him hard to resist.
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If you want to keep her interested, don't be over anxious. Keep a little distance in the beginning. Women like consistent contact, but don't go over board. A phone call once a day or every couple days is good. Toss in a text every now and then. If she texts you, don't be so eager to respond. You set the pace by the way you initiate and respond to contact. You stay in control here, women love men in control.
If you are really liking her and you feel the urge to tell her, hold up. Don't spill the beans so fast. Let her wonder how much you like her. If you just told a girl you really like her and she doesn't respond or drift out to space, slow down boy. She ain't there yet and she won't get there if you start gushing. Instead of spilling, give her a well thought out compliment. One compliment every now and then is enough. Women crave validation, but they also like a challenge. Keep the compliments well spaced, it adds allure. Allure will keep her interested.
If you want to keep her interested, treat her good when you are with her. Quality women will walk in a skinny minute when treated in a mediocre manner. Little things go a long way. If her beer is empty, by all means, order another, don't make her ask. Pour her wine for her. Take care of her so to speak. It lets her know you are paying attention and that is just hot to a woman. Again though, don't over do it.
Less is more. Moving too fast and giving too much too soon takes all the mystery away. Women are into a mysterious man. They find him hard to resist.
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5 Mistakes Men Make Dating
Ever meet a girl, get that first date only to hear shortly after the words "I just want to be friends"? What happened? Why did the attraction just fizzle? Could you have unknowingly made one of the huge dating mistakes men make.
1. Do you listen to her and ask questions about her or are you talking more about yourself trying to impress her? When the date is over, does she know your life history, all about your job and you can't really recall much about her at all? Show sincere interest in her. Being self absorbed is a big mistake men make dating.
2. Please please please don't talk about your ex wife or girlfriend. Nothing waves a flag like this one. We assume you aren't over her, or worse if you are woe is me about the issue, we won't see you as emotionally strong at all. We like strong men, emotionally more than physically.
3. Don't ask us to plan the date. We really want you to take charge, show some confidence. We don't know your budget or your expectations. If you want to present a couple of choices that's fine, but don't depend on us to plan the date.
4. Not pay for the date, especially the first one. That is an immediate ticket to the friend zone. Friends go dutch, dates don't, at least not in the beginning. We feel special when you want to pay.
5. Ignore personal hygiene and put no effort into what you wear. It happens, a guy shows up on the first date in a t-shirt and cap, with dirty sneakers. Suit and tie are not required, but a shirt with a collar is nice, no cap and decent shoes. Women really do notice shoes, trust me on this one.
Note: All of the above does not apply to low quality women who will settle for just a hook up. The above advice is applicable only if you are in search of a smart, attractive, quality woman.
The little mistakes men make dating can pop you into that friend zone in a heartbeat. Quality women can be picky. They have a broader selection of men at their fingertips. Learn to stand out.
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1. Do you listen to her and ask questions about her or are you talking more about yourself trying to impress her? When the date is over, does she know your life history, all about your job and you can't really recall much about her at all? Show sincere interest in her. Being self absorbed is a big mistake men make dating.
2. Please please please don't talk about your ex wife or girlfriend. Nothing waves a flag like this one. We assume you aren't over her, or worse if you are woe is me about the issue, we won't see you as emotionally strong at all. We like strong men, emotionally more than physically.
3. Don't ask us to plan the date. We really want you to take charge, show some confidence. We don't know your budget or your expectations. If you want to present a couple of choices that's fine, but don't depend on us to plan the date.
4. Not pay for the date, especially the first one. That is an immediate ticket to the friend zone. Friends go dutch, dates don't, at least not in the beginning. We feel special when you want to pay.
5. Ignore personal hygiene and put no effort into what you wear. It happens, a guy shows up on the first date in a t-shirt and cap, with dirty sneakers. Suit and tie are not required, but a shirt with a collar is nice, no cap and decent shoes. Women really do notice shoes, trust me on this one.
Note: All of the above does not apply to low quality women who will settle for just a hook up. The above advice is applicable only if you are in search of a smart, attractive, quality woman.
The little mistakes men make dating can pop you into that friend zone in a heartbeat. Quality women can be picky. They have a broader selection of men at their fingertips. Learn to stand out.
How to attract any woman you like, knowing exactly whats going on, what to do and what will happen in any situation. Click Here!
How to Text a Girl and Get Her Into You
If you start out with the marathon texting, you are shooting yourself in the foot in more ways than one. You want to be mysterious and not so very predictable. Predictable is boring. Marathon texting can get annoying and also boring. Save something for a real conversation.
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The first way you kill the attraction with the marathon texting sessions is this tells her you are very into her, it gives her the controls. Girls really don't want to be that much in control, they want to be led. Marathon texting also may lead her to believe you don't have much of a life if you can text for hours. No life a boring boy makes. Humor and Originality also go a long way in the techniques of how to text a girl.
Second way and it is important from a woman's perspective so I have to mention it. When you start out with a set pattern such as you always text "Good Morning" or "Good Night", or you have the "Marathon Texting" sessions, you really just screwed yourself. Now she expects it and it you miss one time, or start decreasing this behavior, don't be alarmed or act surprised if she goes a little crazy. In other words, don't set yourself up for failure for later on. If you are going to marathon text, only do it occasionally. She will appreciate it much more and sort of leaves her wishing it would happen again. Timing is a key element in knowing how to text a girl.
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So if you want to text a girl to keep her into you, let her wonder a little. Let her not ever really know when you are going to text her. This really heightens the attraction. You are there, but she can't quite pin you down. If she is not returning your texts consistently, stop for a few days, this gets her attention. All of a sudden it's like "Where did he go, he was so into me." This is an effective technique in understanding how to text a girl.
True story, the names of course are changed. Mike and Denise had been on a few dates over a months time. Mike would send the "Good Morning" texts every day. Denise sometimes replied, sometimes not. He would texted her things about his day or ask about hers. Denise did not show much enthusiasm. Mike was getting discouraged. She still hung out with him, but she never initiated a text and often didn't reply. Mike stopped for two days, did not contact her at all. Surprise suprise! Denise noticed. All of a sudden, Mike was more interesting. It could be a bit of that "wanting what you can't have".
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Less is more is a good rule to go by. Text a girl you like more like she was a girl you don't really like, especially in the beginning. Keeping her guessing is sort of lke teasing her. Girls as far back as gradeschool love to be teased.
Do you realize how powerful of a tool texting messaging can be when it comes to getting the girl? It can make or break a girl's attraction. You could be killing or intensifying your dating experiences. You can be like the majority of the clueless guys out there or you can stand out by learning some effective texting techniques.
Click Here to get over 101 proven flirty text messages
Click Here to get over 101 proven flirty text messages
The first way you kill the attraction with the marathon texting sessions is this tells her you are very into her, it gives her the controls. Girls really don't want to be that much in control, they want to be led. Marathon texting also may lead her to believe you don't have much of a life if you can text for hours. No life a boring boy makes. Humor and Originality also go a long way in the techniques of how to text a girl.
Second way and it is important from a woman's perspective so I have to mention it. When you start out with a set pattern such as you always text "Good Morning" or "Good Night", or you have the "Marathon Texting" sessions, you really just screwed yourself. Now she expects it and it you miss one time, or start decreasing this behavior, don't be alarmed or act surprised if she goes a little crazy. In other words, don't set yourself up for failure for later on. If you are going to marathon text, only do it occasionally. She will appreciate it much more and sort of leaves her wishing it would happen again. Timing is a key element in knowing how to text a girl.
Click Here to get over 101 proven flirty text messages
So if you want to text a girl to keep her into you, let her wonder a little. Let her not ever really know when you are going to text her. This really heightens the attraction. You are there, but she can't quite pin you down. If she is not returning your texts consistently, stop for a few days, this gets her attention. All of a sudden it's like "Where did he go, he was so into me." This is an effective technique in understanding how to text a girl.
True story, the names of course are changed. Mike and Denise had been on a few dates over a months time. Mike would send the "Good Morning" texts every day. Denise sometimes replied, sometimes not. He would texted her things about his day or ask about hers. Denise did not show much enthusiasm. Mike was getting discouraged. She still hung out with him, but she never initiated a text and often didn't reply. Mike stopped for two days, did not contact her at all. Surprise suprise! Denise noticed. All of a sudden, Mike was more interesting. It could be a bit of that "wanting what you can't have".
Click Here to get over 101 proven flirty text messages
Less is more is a good rule to go by. Text a girl you like more like she was a girl you don't really like, especially in the beginning. Keeping her guessing is sort of lke teasing her. Girls as far back as gradeschool love to be teased.
Do you realize how powerful of a tool texting messaging can be when it comes to getting the girl? It can make or break a girl's attraction. You could be killing or intensifying your dating experiences. You can be like the majority of the clueless guys out there or you can stand out by learning some effective texting techniques.
Click Here to get over 101 proven flirty text messages
Wednesday, July 21, 2010
Why You Should Not Text a Girl All Day Long
When you are constantly texting a girl you become predictatable. She starts to expect it. You also run the risk of seeming too available or needy. You may also be sending the signal of how into her you really are and this is not always a good thing. Mystery and intrigue are what builds attraction, not being predictable.
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You know how it seems the one you don't like so much always seems to pay you more attention. Could this be because you come across to her as more of a challenge. This is why when texting a girl you like, it's best to treat her like a girl you don't really like, especially in the beginning. Be a challenge, not so available.
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The main reason though not to text a girl you like constantly is you want to leave her wanting more. If you are in constant contact, it does not give attraction a chance to build. Anticipation is a big part of attraction. If you are less predictable, say texting less, and at different times, she will be left wondering. A woman's imagination is a powerful tool to use to your advantage.
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When texing girls, keep them guessing. This conveys mystery and allure. What girl does not like an alluring mysterious guy? None! Besides constant texting gets boring. It also shows you don't have much of a life. A guy with a full life is attractive. A guy who does not need the constant validation he gets form all that texting is just sexy.
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You know how it seems the one you don't like so much always seems to pay you more attention. Could this be because you come across to her as more of a challenge. This is why when texting a girl you like, it's best to treat her like a girl you don't really like, especially in the beginning. Be a challenge, not so available.
Click Here to get over 101 proven flirty text messages
The main reason though not to text a girl you like constantly is you want to leave her wanting more. If you are in constant contact, it does not give attraction a chance to build. Anticipation is a big part of attraction. If you are less predictable, say texting less, and at different times, she will be left wondering. A woman's imagination is a powerful tool to use to your advantage.
Click Here to get over 101 proven flirty text messages
When texing girls, keep them guessing. This conveys mystery and allure. What girl does not like an alluring mysterious guy? None! Besides constant texting gets boring. It also shows you don't have much of a life. A guy with a full life is attractive. A guy who does not need the constant validation he gets form all that texting is just sexy.
Friday, July 16, 2010
How to Be a Ladie's Man
When you have the ability to approach a woman and start a conversation with her, you IMMEDIATELY begin meeting more women every weekend that most men will meet in SIX MONTHS. What exactly is this ability and how do you get it. Can it be learned? Absolutely! You can be a ladies man in no time.
Men often make the mistake of trying to get a woman interested in all the wrong ways. They try to be nice, sometimes too nice. I have a guy friend, (I am a woman by the way). He is attractive, and just super nice. I can talk to him for hours and he is a great friend. Now why would I not want to date him? Its not like he didn't try. I did not feel the attraction and let me tell you, he is attractive. He is just too nice. Now don't get me wrong, we don't want to be treated badly, but the things he does in the beginning of trying to get a date just send out all the wrong signals. He used his tactics on me and got nowhere but friendship, now I watch as he repeats these things over and over and just can't seem to get to a date, let alone a relationship. He thinks he is a ladies man, but he is not, he is a ladies best friend.
He will buy a girl drinks, start up a conversation and just straight out start trying to convince the ladies of what a great guy he is and he is a great guy. A woman can think you are a great guy, but that is not going to get you far. We like a man who can get our attention and keep it. The men that stand out are the ones that have an air of confidence, are witty and tease us a bit. They don't try to convince us how great we are. They flirt in a way that challenges us to flirt back. They are natural at being a ladies man.
Being "nice" and "accommodating" and "understanding" is great for friendships and social relationships, but it's HORRIBLE for ATTRACTION. An interesting, attractive woman doesn't want a guy that she can push around. She doesn't want a guy who does what she wants him to do. She doesn't want a little boy that she can train and raise. I am assuming you want an interesting woman and not a damsel in distress, needy type woman that will try to change you.
Isn't it time to take control of your life and become a ladie's man that few women will ever reject? Don't you owe it to yourself to learn how to lay the groundwork for natural conversation, killing any "awkward" moments? There are men out there that are meeting great women and having a large time doing it. They understand what gets a woman attracted and keeps her attracted. If you could learn these skills and they are very simple, why would you not. Don't you want and deserve great women in your life?
Men often make the mistake of trying to get a woman interested in all the wrong ways. They try to be nice, sometimes too nice. I have a guy friend, (I am a woman by the way). He is attractive, and just super nice. I can talk to him for hours and he is a great friend. Now why would I not want to date him? Its not like he didn't try. I did not feel the attraction and let me tell you, he is attractive. He is just too nice. Now don't get me wrong, we don't want to be treated badly, but the things he does in the beginning of trying to get a date just send out all the wrong signals. He used his tactics on me and got nowhere but friendship, now I watch as he repeats these things over and over and just can't seem to get to a date, let alone a relationship. He thinks he is a ladies man, but he is not, he is a ladies best friend.
He will buy a girl drinks, start up a conversation and just straight out start trying to convince the ladies of what a great guy he is and he is a great guy. A woman can think you are a great guy, but that is not going to get you far. We like a man who can get our attention and keep it. The men that stand out are the ones that have an air of confidence, are witty and tease us a bit. They don't try to convince us how great we are. They flirt in a way that challenges us to flirt back. They are natural at being a ladies man.
Being "nice" and "accommodating" and "understanding" is great for friendships and social relationships, but it's HORRIBLE for ATTRACTION. An interesting, attractive woman doesn't want a guy that she can push around. She doesn't want a guy who does what she wants him to do. She doesn't want a little boy that she can train and raise. I am assuming you want an interesting woman and not a damsel in distress, needy type woman that will try to change you.
Isn't it time to take control of your life and become a ladie's man that few women will ever reject? Don't you owe it to yourself to learn how to lay the groundwork for natural conversation, killing any "awkward" moments? There are men out there that are meeting great women and having a large time doing it. They understand what gets a woman attracted and keeps her attracted. If you could learn these skills and they are very simple, why would you not. Don't you want and deserve great women in your life?
Wednesday, July 14, 2010
Texting a Girl to Push Her Buttons
Ever heard the saying men fall in love with their eyes, women fall in love with their ears? In other words, women really do hang on your words. This fact alone makes texting a huge tool in attracting a girl. If done well, you get her attention, if not, well you can blow it fast.
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The goal when texting a girl is to get your texts to become an emotional trigger or anchor. When she sees it's you, you want her heart to race long before she opens your message. If you can text a girl and accomplish this, you got it made.
The way to do this is create positive feelings for a girl when you text her. This is done by being funny, witty and making her feel special. The typical text messages just don't do it. Texting about how her day is or just to say hello is dull and boring and will not set a positive trigger in her mind. There is way more to texting a girl than what you may realize. Just sending a text does not always spark her interest, you need to send a good text.
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The more attractive the girl the harder this is going to be. An attractive girl has more guys competing for her attention. She can afford to be selective. The dull and boring get weeded out quick. Trust me, I am a girl, I get lots of text messages. Some just make me want to roll my eyes and I don't even answer, if I do, my heart is not in it. It's the guy that makes me laugh that I will put some thought into my reply. When texting a girl, take the time to do it right, otherwise you are just wasting your efforts.
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Learn what messages send her through the roof and which ones bore her to tears. While she is texting you, she may very well be texting some other guy that is far more skilled than you. Don't take it for granted that you know what you are doing, because about 95% don't. Click Here to get over 101 proven flirty text messages
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The goal when texting a girl is to get your texts to become an emotional trigger or anchor. When she sees it's you, you want her heart to race long before she opens your message. If you can text a girl and accomplish this, you got it made.
The way to do this is create positive feelings for a girl when you text her. This is done by being funny, witty and making her feel special. The typical text messages just don't do it. Texting about how her day is or just to say hello is dull and boring and will not set a positive trigger in her mind. There is way more to texting a girl than what you may realize. Just sending a text does not always spark her interest, you need to send a good text.
Click Here to get over 101 proven flirty text messages
The more attractive the girl the harder this is going to be. An attractive girl has more guys competing for her attention. She can afford to be selective. The dull and boring get weeded out quick. Trust me, I am a girl, I get lots of text messages. Some just make me want to roll my eyes and I don't even answer, if I do, my heart is not in it. It's the guy that makes me laugh that I will put some thought into my reply. When texting a girl, take the time to do it right, otherwise you are just wasting your efforts.
Click Here to get over 101 proven flirty text messages
Learn what messages send her through the roof and which ones bore her to tears. While she is texting you, she may very well be texting some other guy that is far more skilled than you. Don't take it for granted that you know what you are doing, because about 95% don't. Click Here to get over 101 proven flirty text messages
Tuesday, July 13, 2010
Attraction and Women
How does attraction work with women? What causes a woman to feel a strong attraction for a man? Women do two things with men who are interested in them. They either make excuses not to see the man which means they are not attracted, or they hang on his every word and anticipate the next meeting with great excitement. What is it about one man that can attract this woman and another man that repels this woman.
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I am going to share a personal story about attraction. I am an attractive women that gets more than my share of attention. Attracting men is the easy part, feeling the attraction in return, not so easy. The fact is, I feel it for very few men, so what did one man do to build up this attraction that drives me crazy. A man nothing like what I would give a second thought. I like taller men, he is not tall, I like bigger men, I think he may weigh less than me. I like men who are cocky, this man is calm and quiet. So what did he do to get me to this point of constantly thinking about him?
He appealed to my emotional side. He is long distance, we could not meet for a long time, so it was emails and text messages that kept us connected. If I did not know better I would think this man had read every book I endorse on text messaging the opposite sex. He would push my emotional buttons with a little humor and a lot of mystery. The more mysterious he was the more I was dying to meet him. Never once was there a dull or lame message which resulted in my heart soaring every time I opened my phone or inbox. I was already long gone and we had not even met yet.
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Fast forward, we met. He had built the attraction so strong with his words by this time, he could have been a troll and I would not have cared. I was smitten. The rest is history to be written. So if you think nice guys finish last, and you have to be some hunk to attract a great woman, think again. Attraction for women is not visual, it's emotional. Learn how to do this and you too can attract women and double your dating. Click Here To Access the Dating Secrets Community
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I am going to share a personal story about attraction. I am an attractive women that gets more than my share of attention. Attracting men is the easy part, feeling the attraction in return, not so easy. The fact is, I feel it for very few men, so what did one man do to build up this attraction that drives me crazy. A man nothing like what I would give a second thought. I like taller men, he is not tall, I like bigger men, I think he may weigh less than me. I like men who are cocky, this man is calm and quiet. So what did he do to get me to this point of constantly thinking about him?
He appealed to my emotional side. He is long distance, we could not meet for a long time, so it was emails and text messages that kept us connected. If I did not know better I would think this man had read every book I endorse on text messaging the opposite sex. He would push my emotional buttons with a little humor and a lot of mystery. The more mysterious he was the more I was dying to meet him. Never once was there a dull or lame message which resulted in my heart soaring every time I opened my phone or inbox. I was already long gone and we had not even met yet.
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Fast forward, we met. He had built the attraction so strong with his words by this time, he could have been a troll and I would not have cared. I was smitten. The rest is history to be written. So if you think nice guys finish last, and you have to be some hunk to attract a great woman, think again. Attraction for women is not visual, it's emotional. Learn how to do this and you too can attract women and double your dating. Click Here To Access the Dating Secrets Community
Friday, July 2, 2010
The Nice Guy
On a ladies forum, there is a discussion about nice guys and what advice we women would give them. Wanted to share a few of the posts here. We really do like nice guys.
A woman who is secure within herself and truthful to herself, does not respect a man who says YES to everything, as that reflects lack of personality . A real man has feelings, thoughts and principles of his own and should not ignore his real self
You're a nice guy, you're not gonna give off that 'I'm only interested in sex'-vibe anyway. But a girl's looking for a lover, not a male friend. You do need to create physical attraction and convince her that there's sexual compatability. Without some sexual tension during the date, a girl might have a nice dinner with you, but she won't consider taking you as her mate. Good flirting includes some subtle naughty humor.
Many nice guys think when it comes to women, they have the short straw. They see tons of confident, cocky males getting the woman. However, the truth is - nice guys have the winning edge. Most women will give nice guys a chance, precisely because they display more respect to a woman, they're better mannered and they have values that are so appealing to a woman.
Where the nice guys fall down however is in lack of confidence and poor self esteem.
My advice to a nice guy is to feel the fear and do it anyway. Don't be shy to make the first move. If you're interested in a woman, well please show it. Chances are you'll get success.
And if a woman does happen to reject you, please don't take it personally, and allow that one rejection to cause you to head back into your shell.
We LIKE nice guys!
A woman who is secure within herself and truthful to herself, does not respect a man who says YES to everything, as that reflects lack of personality . A real man has feelings, thoughts and principles of his own and should not ignore his real self
You're a nice guy, you're not gonna give off that 'I'm only interested in sex'-vibe anyway. But a girl's looking for a lover, not a male friend. You do need to create physical attraction and convince her that there's sexual compatability. Without some sexual tension during the date, a girl might have a nice dinner with you, but she won't consider taking you as her mate. Good flirting includes some subtle naughty humor.
Many nice guys think when it comes to women, they have the short straw. They see tons of confident, cocky males getting the woman. However, the truth is - nice guys have the winning edge. Most women will give nice guys a chance, precisely because they display more respect to a woman, they're better mannered and they have values that are so appealing to a woman.
Where the nice guys fall down however is in lack of confidence and poor self esteem.
My advice to a nice guy is to feel the fear and do it anyway. Don't be shy to make the first move. If you're interested in a woman, well please show it. Chances are you'll get success.
And if a woman does happen to reject you, please don't take it personally, and allow that one rejection to cause you to head back into your shell.
We LIKE nice guys!
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