If you have a new girl in your life and are thinking of sending her a good morning text first thing to consider is this. Is she as into you as you are her? When we girls get a good morning text, we know in that instant you are into us. We think, wow he is thinking of me in the morning, this guy really likes me. You have lost some of your mystery appeal here. She now knows she is in. Once a girl knows this, the fun is pretty much over. Do you really want her to know yet that you are thinking of her even when you awake in the morning?
Another thing about texting a girl good morning is you are setting up an expectation that is pretty high. If you are both into one another and it is early on, she is going to start expecting it everyday. It lays ground work for issues ahead. Do you want to be expected to text her every morning? What happens if you stop feeling it for her or miss a few mornings? I will tell you what happens. Women analyze. She will start worrying if you might be getting distant. There is a good chance she may cause some drama. It's like when you tell a girl you are going to call her and you don't. What does she do? You know the answer to that one I am sure.
Last but not least is texting a girl good morning is pretty boring. It doesn't do much to build attraction. It's sweet, but sweet will not make her feel it for you. To build attraction with texting a girl you need to convey mystery and be a challenge. Texting is a huge tool that can be used to build attraction if you do it with skill.
Any guy can send the same old boring messages that we get everyday. Learn to stand out and escalate the attraction to a higher level through texting.
Monday, November 15, 2010
Sunday, November 14, 2010
She is Distant - What Happened - What to Do
Ever been dating a woman maybe a few weeks, maybe a few months and all of a sudden she is distant. You can tell in her voice she is less than thrilled when you call, she may stop answering some of your texts and worse she canceled a date. You can feel her pulling away and you don't know why.
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Chances are she is not feeling the attraction she felt earlier. Attraction for a woman is a tricky thing. They like to feel secure, but at the same time they do like mystery. You might want to ask yourself have you been smothering her or maybe being too predictable.
Men often wonder why women love jerks. This is not really true, it's just there is something that jerks can do that the nice guys struggle with. They create attraction. They are not so easy to get and are far from predictable. If you are texting her relentlessly, telling her you miss her and other mushy stuff, this really is a turn off. We start to think, oh boy, if I don't return the sentiments, he is not going to be happy. Then we feel responsible for your happiness. This is huge in killing attraction.
I will share a story about attraction gone south. Tim met Jen. They hit it off, started dating. Tim immediately started texting her everyday. Good Morning, Good Night, sharing parts of his day with her. He sent her flowers. She was flattered at first. How sweet. Weeks go by, he continues. Jen is starting to get bored. She calls me and doesn't know what to do, she feels smothered and is starting to see him as a friend. The more she pulls away, the more he comes after her. She is distant. Relationship dies before it even gets off the ground because Tim wouldn't give her time to miss him, the key element in building attraction.
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If you feel she is distant, don't go after her even harder. Give her some space and time to miss you. Don't ask her for reassurance, this makes you look needy and will kill the attraction even more. If you text her every morning, miss one. Mirror her level of commitment. This shows her you will not allow her to be the center of your universe. This is wildly attractive to a woman.
It's like flowers on Valentines day. You get them for her because it is expected. If you are relentless and predictable, she will come to expect it. A woman would much rather get flowers at random than on a day of celebration. It means so much more.
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Click Here To Access the Dating Secrets Community
Chances are she is not feeling the attraction she felt earlier. Attraction for a woman is a tricky thing. They like to feel secure, but at the same time they do like mystery. You might want to ask yourself have you been smothering her or maybe being too predictable.
Men often wonder why women love jerks. This is not really true, it's just there is something that jerks can do that the nice guys struggle with. They create attraction. They are not so easy to get and are far from predictable. If you are texting her relentlessly, telling her you miss her and other mushy stuff, this really is a turn off. We start to think, oh boy, if I don't return the sentiments, he is not going to be happy. Then we feel responsible for your happiness. This is huge in killing attraction.
I will share a story about attraction gone south. Tim met Jen. They hit it off, started dating. Tim immediately started texting her everyday. Good Morning, Good Night, sharing parts of his day with her. He sent her flowers. She was flattered at first. How sweet. Weeks go by, he continues. Jen is starting to get bored. She calls me and doesn't know what to do, she feels smothered and is starting to see him as a friend. The more she pulls away, the more he comes after her. She is distant. Relationship dies before it even gets off the ground because Tim wouldn't give her time to miss him, the key element in building attraction.
Click Here To Access the Dating Secrets Community
If you feel she is distant, don't go after her even harder. Give her some space and time to miss you. Don't ask her for reassurance, this makes you look needy and will kill the attraction even more. If you text her every morning, miss one. Mirror her level of commitment. This shows her you will not allow her to be the center of your universe. This is wildly attractive to a woman.
It's like flowers on Valentines day. You get them for her because it is expected. If you are relentless and predictable, she will come to expect it. A woman would much rather get flowers at random than on a day of celebration. It means so much more.
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Thursday, November 4, 2010
Why and How Women Fake Orgasms
Women faking orgasms is very common. I often hear men say she should just tell them how to please her. Truth is though, this isn't really something a woman feels comfortable doing. She knows it may take her longer and she fears this will turn a man off. She is also scared you may see her as a freak.
With the porn out there, it puts some pressure on women. In any porn flick, the women are in these insane positions such as ankles around the neck, or contorted into a pretzel, yet she is screaming her head off in ecstasy. This really isn't realistic. A woman is often self conscious and to have her legs over her head does not make her feel attractive, trust me. She is thinking of her belly and how it might look to you. If you are behind her, she make think her rear is too wide. These things get in the way of our orgasms. An orgasm with a woman starts in her mind.
Just like you don't want to disappoint her, she doesn't want to disappoint you. This is the main reason women fake orgasms. She is thinking of you and not her. Women by nature want to please you. They know how sensitive men are when it comes to his performance. It's often just easier faking an orgasm than risking hurting your feelings.
I know a lot of men who would say their women faking an orgasm is out of the question. Many a man has been fooled by this illusion. Women do fake it. They can actually contract their vaginal muscles and breath and moan and groan just like the porn stars do it. You roll over thinking you are the man and she rolls over frustrated thinking she just put on the show of her life. She has dug herself in and now she doesn't know how to fix it so that you will know how to satisfy her.
If you are having sex with your woman and she is panting and screaming like a banshee ape, there really is a good chance she is faking it. If she really is having an orgasm, her heart starts beating really fast when orgasm begins, she gets flushed, and her breathing is shallow and fast. A woman's nipples go completely erect during an orgasm. This is a little fact they never will share with you because then you would know their secret.
All women fake orgasms at some point, there are few who haven't. We talk about it often with our girlfriends. It's a very common topic among women. They don't feel safe to open up because they are too worried about what you may think. If you want to satisfy her and assure she doesn't have to fake it, this may take opening your mind to the fact that you may not know what you think you know.
Are you positive your woman isn't faking it? Do you want to be the best lover she ever had? For tips to blow her mind in bed and really connect click here.
With the porn out there, it puts some pressure on women. In any porn flick, the women are in these insane positions such as ankles around the neck, or contorted into a pretzel, yet she is screaming her head off in ecstasy. This really isn't realistic. A woman is often self conscious and to have her legs over her head does not make her feel attractive, trust me. She is thinking of her belly and how it might look to you. If you are behind her, she make think her rear is too wide. These things get in the way of our orgasms. An orgasm with a woman starts in her mind.
Just like you don't want to disappoint her, she doesn't want to disappoint you. This is the main reason women fake orgasms. She is thinking of you and not her. Women by nature want to please you. They know how sensitive men are when it comes to his performance. It's often just easier faking an orgasm than risking hurting your feelings.
I know a lot of men who would say their women faking an orgasm is out of the question. Many a man has been fooled by this illusion. Women do fake it. They can actually contract their vaginal muscles and breath and moan and groan just like the porn stars do it. You roll over thinking you are the man and she rolls over frustrated thinking she just put on the show of her life. She has dug herself in and now she doesn't know how to fix it so that you will know how to satisfy her.
If you are having sex with your woman and she is panting and screaming like a banshee ape, there really is a good chance she is faking it. If she really is having an orgasm, her heart starts beating really fast when orgasm begins, she gets flushed, and her breathing is shallow and fast. A woman's nipples go completely erect during an orgasm. This is a little fact they never will share with you because then you would know their secret.
All women fake orgasms at some point, there are few who haven't. We talk about it often with our girlfriends. It's a very common topic among women. They don't feel safe to open up because they are too worried about what you may think. If you want to satisfy her and assure she doesn't have to fake it, this may take opening your mind to the fact that you may not know what you think you know.
Are you positive your woman isn't faking it? Do you want to be the best lover she ever had? For tips to blow her mind in bed and really connect click here.
Wednesday, November 3, 2010
Online Dating Email-The Subject Line Is Critical
In my experience with online dating, that first email is your opportunity for a first impression. The subject line of an online dating email is her next impression after your profile, which is also critical. Don't underestimate the power this simple thing holds as to weather she will consider you as a candidate or not.
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I am an advocate of online dating. I have done it and met some really great guys, even had a couple of long term relationships, not to mention the friendships I have had too. Don't get me wrong, I have met some crazy guys, just like I am sure you have met some crazy women. It's a numbers game, but if you are dating online, you increase your chances of finding a companion by leaps and bounds.
I have seen many things in a subject line of an online dating email. First there is the "no subject". This does nothing to spark interest. You need an interesting subject line, one that stands out in her inbox. Quality women get a lot of emails. If they open up their mail and see "No subject", they think you didn't put forth too much effort.
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Then there is the ridiculous subject line that almost all the guys use. It's something like "Hey Sexy", "Nice pic", "Hi beautiful", etc... You get the drift right? When we open our mail, we often have many of these that are so alike it's just down right discouraging. We roll our eyes and say, "Oh Boy, here we go again".
So what do you put in the subject line of an online dating email then? Find something in her profile and use that to come up with a subject line. Be witty and humorous. Let her know you actually read her profile. Stay away from anything sexual and don't comment on her appearance of good looks. Attraction for a woman starts in her mind. Stimulate her mind.
Another good trick is if you exchange several emails which if she is a quality woman she may want to do, change the subject line with every few emails. This piques her interest. If she opens up her mail and finds a different subject line every time, you start to stand out from the rest. You are more interesting and creative than the others.
The subject line of an online dating email is just one of the many important things to consider. There is the profile, email content, profile picture and the list goes on and on. To triple your chances of getting dates online, invest in learning what works and what doesn't, I think you would be surprised. Knowledge is power.
Click Here to discover how to have 7 Dates or more this month with attractive women
Click Here to discover how to have 7 Dates or more this month with attractive women
I am an advocate of online dating. I have done it and met some really great guys, even had a couple of long term relationships, not to mention the friendships I have had too. Don't get me wrong, I have met some crazy guys, just like I am sure you have met some crazy women. It's a numbers game, but if you are dating online, you increase your chances of finding a companion by leaps and bounds.
I have seen many things in a subject line of an online dating email. First there is the "no subject". This does nothing to spark interest. You need an interesting subject line, one that stands out in her inbox. Quality women get a lot of emails. If they open up their mail and see "No subject", they think you didn't put forth too much effort.
Click Here to discover how to have 7 Dates or more this month with attractive women
Then there is the ridiculous subject line that almost all the guys use. It's something like "Hey Sexy", "Nice pic", "Hi beautiful", etc... You get the drift right? When we open our mail, we often have many of these that are so alike it's just down right discouraging. We roll our eyes and say, "Oh Boy, here we go again".
So what do you put in the subject line of an online dating email then? Find something in her profile and use that to come up with a subject line. Be witty and humorous. Let her know you actually read her profile. Stay away from anything sexual and don't comment on her appearance of good looks. Attraction for a woman starts in her mind. Stimulate her mind.
Another good trick is if you exchange several emails which if she is a quality woman she may want to do, change the subject line with every few emails. This piques her interest. If she opens up her mail and finds a different subject line every time, you start to stand out from the rest. You are more interesting and creative than the others.
The subject line of an online dating email is just one of the many important things to consider. There is the profile, email content, profile picture and the list goes on and on. To triple your chances of getting dates online, invest in learning what works and what doesn't, I think you would be surprised. Knowledge is power.
Click Here to discover how to have 7 Dates or more this month with attractive women
Sunday, October 31, 2010
Text Messaging to Make Her Fall in Love
Can you make a girl fall in love with text messaging? Sounds crazy doesn't it? Well not really. Girls respond to words if used in the right way.
Do you have any clue how many women fall in love online without ever meeting the guy? They form this amazing attachment to a stranger and are convinced they are in love. How do I know this? For starters, I have about 15 of them living in my inbox seeking advice, plus it has happened to me.
Think about it, texting a girl is very similar to emailing back and forth. If a guy can hook a girl through email, surely he can hook her with texting also. It's all about building mystery, attraction and sexual tension. It's not always about what you say, but also about what you don't say. To make a girl fall in love with text messages, you have to be clever.
There are techniques you can use in communicating in the virtual world that keep her hanging and wanting more. I have been on the receiving end of this communication and let me tell you, by the time I met the guy, I was sure it was love. Sounds crazy I know, but he knew how to push my buttons. I wanted to know more about him because he knew how to use the words to let my imagination go into overtime. I spent an entire day texting this guy and at the end of the day, I realized I really knew little about him and he knew a lot about me. How on earth did he do that?
Texting with your girl can enhance your relationship if you know the right techniques and what to say and what not to say. Texting girls is the number one tool in dating now. Some guys are naturals, some are learned. Which one are you?
Do you have any clue how many women fall in love online without ever meeting the guy? They form this amazing attachment to a stranger and are convinced they are in love. How do I know this? For starters, I have about 15 of them living in my inbox seeking advice, plus it has happened to me.
Think about it, texting a girl is very similar to emailing back and forth. If a guy can hook a girl through email, surely he can hook her with texting also. It's all about building mystery, attraction and sexual tension. It's not always about what you say, but also about what you don't say. To make a girl fall in love with text messages, you have to be clever.
There are techniques you can use in communicating in the virtual world that keep her hanging and wanting more. I have been on the receiving end of this communication and let me tell you, by the time I met the guy, I was sure it was love. Sounds crazy I know, but he knew how to push my buttons. I wanted to know more about him because he knew how to use the words to let my imagination go into overtime. I spent an entire day texting this guy and at the end of the day, I realized I really knew little about him and he knew a lot about me. How on earth did he do that?
Texting with your girl can enhance your relationship if you know the right techniques and what to say and what not to say. Texting girls is the number one tool in dating now. Some guys are naturals, some are learned. Which one are you?
Friday, October 22, 2010
Conveying Mystery With Text Messages to Women
It really is what you don't say that packs the punch. Let's say she just texted you "What ya doing?". You can answer her and tell her of course. " I just had lunch, now I am going to walk the dog." How boring is that? No mystery there is it. When texting a woman, be fun, not dull.
Let her imagination do your work for you. Don't actually answer her question. Dance around it. Change the subject. This would be even more effective if she asked something like "What are you up to tonight?". It leaves her wanting more information, a sure way to build mystery when texting a woman.
Another way to avoid the questions is to answer something just crazy or off the wall. Something like "Signing autographs, whatever, you get the point. It starts an entirely new conversation
yet she still doesn't have the answer to her question. Again she wants more information.
When texting a woman, less is more. Another way to be mysterious is to not reply right away. Wait a while. Let her wonder what you are doing that has you so busy you can't answer. Now chances are good that if you don't answer right away she will text again. If she does, use this opportunity to pick at her for her impatience and how she must really want you to keep texting.
When texting girls so many guys are so boring. They are predictable. Boring and predictable do not build attraction when it comes to texting women. Mystery and illusive build attraction. Be evasive. This makes her want to see you. It's a challenge and all people, male and female, love a challenge. It's a fact.
Let her imagination do your work for you. Don't actually answer her question. Dance around it. Change the subject. This would be even more effective if she asked something like "What are you up to tonight?". It leaves her wanting more information, a sure way to build mystery when texting a woman.
Another way to avoid the questions is to answer something just crazy or off the wall. Something like "Signing autographs, whatever, you get the point. It starts an entirely new conversation
yet she still doesn't have the answer to her question. Again she wants more information.
When texting a woman, less is more. Another way to be mysterious is to not reply right away. Wait a while. Let her wonder what you are doing that has you so busy you can't answer. Now chances are good that if you don't answer right away she will text again. If she does, use this opportunity to pick at her for her impatience and how she must really want you to keep texting.
When texting girls so many guys are so boring. They are predictable. Boring and predictable do not build attraction when it comes to texting women. Mystery and illusive build attraction. Be evasive. This makes her want to see you. It's a challenge and all people, male and female, love a challenge. It's a fact.
Monday, October 18, 2010
"The Psychology Behind Portraying Mystery... Think of Movie Previews..."
By Derek Lamont
Online Pickup Artist Expert & Author
www.OnlinePickupSecrets.com
We all know that MYSTERY is an integral part in attracting sexy women. But many men have absolutely no idea what REAL mystery is or how to portray it PROPERLY... especially in their online dating profiles.
Portray mystery correctly, and you’ll have all the attraction you need to escalate your interactions to the next level. To be honest, in all my experience seducing women, portraying that element of mystery is one of the most sure-fire ways to build up a physical relationship...
So how can this be done?
First, mystery simply cannot be conveyed unless you have conveyed high value. Think about it from a girl’s perspective if you can... are you going to want to find out more about something if you know that there’s going to be NO value in the end?
Of course not!
The analogy that I like to use is the “Movie Preview” one... think of how mystery is portrayed in one of those movie trailers. They show some of the BEST parts of the movie but then... WAIT... it stops! They cut it off when the seemingly BEST part is about to come.
That’s exactly what you need to do in your real life interactions and your online dating profiles! Let me give you an example...
Say you’re filling out your “interests box” and you want to spice it up a bit... you can say like...
“And my greatest and most passionate hobby involves mixing fancy SPORTS CARS and... something else. ;) I’m not telling at this point!.”
See what I mean?
You convey value at first by saying that you’re into FANCY sports cars. This, in turn, conveys that you have a passion in something very exotic. This is VERY appealing. Then, of course, you finish it off by saying that you aren’t telling.
I mean, there are tons of other examples... but you get the gist. Every good profile will have at least ONE of these.
Compel women to message you!
If you want to find out the full story on how YOU can get 4-5 messages a DAY from beautiful women online, visit my website.
Check it out?
What are you waiting for?
By Derek Lamont
Online Pickup Artist Expert & Author
www.OnlinePickupSecrets.com
We all know that MYSTERY is an integral part in attracting sexy women. But many men have absolutely no idea what REAL mystery is or how to portray it PROPERLY... especially in their online dating profiles.
Portray mystery correctly, and you’ll have all the attraction you need to escalate your interactions to the next level. To be honest, in all my experience seducing women, portraying that element of mystery is one of the most sure-fire ways to build up a physical relationship...
So how can this be done?
First, mystery simply cannot be conveyed unless you have conveyed high value. Think about it from a girl’s perspective if you can... are you going to want to find out more about something if you know that there’s going to be NO value in the end?
Of course not!
The analogy that I like to use is the “Movie Preview” one... think of how mystery is portrayed in one of those movie trailers. They show some of the BEST parts of the movie but then... WAIT... it stops! They cut it off when the seemingly BEST part is about to come.
That’s exactly what you need to do in your real life interactions and your online dating profiles! Let me give you an example...
Say you’re filling out your “interests box” and you want to spice it up a bit... you can say like...
“And my greatest and most passionate hobby involves mixing fancy SPORTS CARS and... something else. ;) I’m not telling at this point!.”
See what I mean?
You convey value at first by saying that you’re into FANCY sports cars. This, in turn, conveys that you have a passion in something very exotic. This is VERY appealing. Then, of course, you finish it off by saying that you aren’t telling.
I mean, there are tons of other examples... but you get the gist. Every good profile will have at least ONE of these.
Compel women to message you!
If you want to find out the full story on how YOU can get 4-5 messages a DAY from beautiful women online, visit my website.
Check it out?
What are you waiting for?
By Derek Lamont
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