Wednesday, November 24, 2010

Top 4 Mistakes Men Make in Bed

1. Asking Her What Turns Her On

Talk to women any day and you will find their biggest complaint is communication, men just don't really know how. Asking her seems logical right? Wrong. We appreciate the effort, really we do, but for most of us, opening up like that is not an easy task. We want a man who leads, who pays attention and knows what to do. We do understand you can't read minds, but we know somewhere inside that if you pay really close attention to the signals of our body, you will learn what turns us on without asking.

If you just ask her "What turns you on?" you might get a good answer. She might even like it when you ask her. But there is a strong chance that, on some unconscious level, she will feel a weakness in you and be disappointed.

She will be less turned on by the sexual experience if she feels weakness. The key is to get her to open up and get her to show you without you asking.

2. Using Techniques to Please Her

Techniques are great, but again, a woman's orgasm really is directly connected with her brain. The problem with these techniques is that all women are different. What works on one, will not work on another. A woman can tell when you are just focused on a mastering a technique. This means one thing to her, you aren't focused on her but on what you are doing at the time. She then feels pressure to reward you for your efforts. We often fake orgasms at times like this just to get you to stop. It makes us very uncomfortable to have a man doing some robotic thing hoping to bring us to orgasm.

3. Not Understanding the Sexual Language of Women

Sexual communication is foreign to most men. Women give off all kinds of signals, but you aren't understanding her most of the time. Have you ever been going down on a woman and for some reason you feel she may be up there sleeping? Have you ever had a woman getting really excited and she pushed you away or stopped you? This is happening because again, you aren't paying attention and she is frustrated. If you can learn how to listen to a woman's body and really pay attention, she is capable of having an incredible sexual experience. Tons of signals are being sent out when a woman is close to orgasm. Men misinterpret them for many reason, one of which is he may be looking for the standard orgasm response. Screaming, moaning,what ever he has encountered before. Not all women are alike and I can't stress this enough. Some orgasm quietly and you have to pay attention to her breathing. Others thrash around. Some are still. It is critical to be able to read her sexual language and all women speak it differently.

4. Not Doing Anything To Fix It

The 4th and biggest mistake of all. If you don't do anything to fix it. Women will stay and remain faithful to you if you are an incredible lover, don't underestimate the power of it. If you aren't doing it, chances are somewhere out there is a man who will take the time and effort to take her to higher sexual levels.

Are you the best lover she ever had? Are you sure? You can be.

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