Showing posts with label finding women online. Show all posts
Showing posts with label finding women online. Show all posts

Friday, March 19, 2010

Dreadful Dating

I am an active member on a ladies forum. Hundreds if not thousands of women communicate daily from all over the world on this board. A topic that comes up often is online dating and the frustrations we feel. Below is just on of hundreds of excerpts from this board regarding men and online dating.



Yes...I can imagine a guy taking his Match.com picture. He takes 20 different pictures. Then out of those 20 pictures, not to mention all the other pictures he has had taken of him in his 30 years of existence, he chooses the one that is the most out of focus, with the camera up his nostrils, with the color totally off, where you can still see his arm in the picture, with him scowling like a serial rapist, to be his main photo to attract women with online.

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Seriously....how can SO MANY MEN be SO CLUELESS? Can't they tell what a decent picture of them is versus a not so decent picture? I would never put a picture up on Match.com that I would be afraid to frame and put on my dresser. So why do guys, in what is supposed to be an ADVERTISEMENT for themselves to potentially find the love of their life, or at the very least someone to have sex with, pick the most horrid, unflattering pictures to represent themselves with?

Or there's 5 pictures of them in a group, where you can't even tell which guy is which. Or there's pictures with their ex-girlfriend, where they've clearly tried to crop her out...but missed her shoulder or her arm. Or there's 10 pictures of sunsets and beaches, not to mention their car or bicycle, and pet dog, but not a SINGLE PICTURE of their face!

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And so many profiles are three sentences long and say absolutely nothing about themselves or what they want. "I'm a laid-back, fun-loving, nice guy who is fun to be around. Looking for an adventurous, attractive girl, who is fun to hang out with and likes doing cool stuff." Really? I think the guy might be, like 18, who wrote it, and then I look at the age and he's 38. Really? At the age of 38, this is all you have to say about yourself?

And guys complain that girls don't write to them and they have to do all the work...

Ugh!!!

I will get off my soapbox now.

I've signed up as a Member of Match.com, not a subscriber yet, so I can peruse a little bit and build up my favorites before paying for the subscription. I have probably looked at 200 profiles. Of the 200, I only found 2 that I liked, that looked like they were written by someone with half a brain. I have about 6 others on there that are okay, maybe possibilities. That's it. Nearly all the rest of the profiles and pictures looked like they were posted by someone with a severe mental handicap.

It is immensely frustrating, as I have expanded my search range to include from 28 to 43 (I am 29), and up to 30 miles away (which is an ETERNITY away in Los Angeles), and I have so few options, on the world's largest dating site.

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Whew. But, I have to remember...back when I was online dating last year...the best guys I met were all from Match. Didn't have the right chemistry with them, but at least they were nice, smelled okay, could put a sentence together, and could spell. A couple of them were really funny. So I'm trying to focus on the mostly positive experience I had with Match in the past rather than the fear and frustration I am feeling right now!!

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As a recently married woman told me once: "You're not looking for 100 or 50 or 10 great guys. You're only looking for ONE. Focus on that. You can find ONE great guy." Easier said than done, but I'm not giving up!

Thursday, December 3, 2009

On Line Dating Profiles for Men

The profile, wow, 98% of them say about the same thing. You tell us all of your wonderful qualities. You are honest, caring, sincere, affectionate, respectful and know how to treat a lady. These qualities are grand, it beats dishonest, selfish, liar, cold hearted and disrespectful and will treat you like trash. Don't try to sell yourself, we are not shopping for a car.

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Then there is usually the line about not playing games. So many times you men think we are playing games when we are not. We are just following the natural role of being the selector. We know most of you don't want games and neither do we. Leave that information out.

When describing your ideal mate we don't need to see your long list. When you have all of these expectations, you are only hurting yourself. Setting high specific expectations may just scare off the perfect woman for you. You may prefer blondes and that fabulous brunette just got away. You may want a fitness buff but the lounging laid back woman may be everything else you ever wanted.

Scroll the profiles, most of them start out and continue with "I". The best profiles are written like you are just talking, put your personality in there with a few facts. Leave something for the imagination. We don't want to read a novel, and we don't want to read an advertisement either. Somewhere in the middle please. We know you are looking for a good woman, we already know a lot of things, so don't repeat them. Tell us something we don't know.

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One more thing about profiles. If you have had some bad experiences, don't let that show in your profile. We have all played the fool at some point in our lives. When you mention it or allude to it, we see you as bitter. We also assume you are not over the woman before us. Big turn off. We want to know you are ready to embrace us and if you have your hands full of the past, well you just won't be able.

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Wednesday, November 4, 2009

Online Dating Advice for Men

Dating sites are becoming more and more popular. When you join an online dating site for men your chances for meeting more women increases dramatically. Its like shopping. You put in your criteria and ta da, pages of women to choose from appear. So why do you still get refected? What are you doing wrong? There is so much to consider. There is the profile, the pictures and those first emails. What can you do to stand out in the online dating world?

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The first impression is your picture. Make sure it is a close up and it is clear. If you choose to add other pictures to your profile, consider adding ones where you are actively doing what you enjoy. No pictures of pets, landscape scenes or other women, regardless of who they are. Women are turned off by pictures of you with other women. One of the best tips for internet dating for men is have a picture. A close up and one full body is prefered.

Then the important thing, your profile. It would not hurt to do a reverse search and view other profiles of men. By seeing profiles of other men you can get a good idea how to stand out above the others. 98% of male profiles start out with something like how honest, loving, sincere, hardworking and so on and so forth a man is. As opposed to what? Dishonest, hateful, deceitful and lazy? These qualities do not need to be pointed out. Your personality should shine in your online profile. She should be motivated by your words to learn more about you.

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That first email is crucial. I am a woman active on a dating site and I can't tell you how many times I roll my eyes. The majority of the men either send something lame like "Ya wanna chat", or "How are you", and I have even got just a lame "hi". This does nothing for me or any other woman for that matter. Then there are the men that enter our inboxes trying to sell themselves. Please spare us, we are not buying a car. We are looking for creative interesting men. Are you out there? A male online profile should pique our interest, not bore us to tears.

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