Monday, August 22, 2011

How To Get a Second Date With Her

The first few dates are when you lay the ground work for her attraction to build.  You landed a first date, now can you land a second date.  If you aren't sure if the first date got her attention, be very careful in how you go about getting the second date.  You don't want to overwhelm her, you don't want to be needy or desperate.  You want to come off as confident.  It's always the gentleman thing to do to thank her for the first date.  A text, a quick phone call will do.  Don't make the second date yet though.

I know you may think this is playing games, but really how women form attraction is important here.  She won't be attracted to a man who is too eager.  That is why it's best to wait a few days before asking her out for a second date.  Give her time to wonder if in fact you were or were not into her.  Then when you contact her for that second date she feels relief because you just might be into her after all.  This plants a seed for attraction to grow.  Women love a confident man and by waiting you show her you are confident that yes she does want to see you again.  You are confident, yet not clingy or coming across as needy.

Have a plan when you do ask her out for a second date.  Hopefully you paid attention on the first date and have an idea of what she would like to do.  Don't ask her to pick the place, you pick the place.  Interactive dates are best at building attraction.  No movie date please.  Bowling, a picnic, a walk, anything but a movie.  Have the plan already, a woman likes a man who can take charge.  Just purrrr at that one.

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Don't call her every night after the first date either.  Less is more, always.  Calling her every night lets her know that you have already made up your mind about her.  What are you, easy?  No I think not.  A woman will think about you when she isn't in as much contact.  If she is liking you, pacing her will only make her attraction grow.  If you want that second date, now is the time to play it cool. 

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Wednesday, August 17, 2011

Flakey Women

I hear it all the time.  Women are flakes.  I hear it more from good guys than I do the bad boy types.  This is interesting to me and I can only speculate why that is.  I think the bad boys have a sense of abundancy more than a good guy.  A good guy thinks good women are hard to find.  Good being the key work that I will touch on in a moment.  A bad boy just moves on from the flake and doesn't really give it much thought.  A good guy keeps trying.

What I mean here is this and I have seen it a lot.  A guy goes on a date with a woman.  He asks her out again soon and she says, sure, call me next week and we will set something up.  So he calls.  She tells him she has this and that going on this weekend, maybe next weekend.  They eventually may make a date and she breaks it.  In other words she won't lock down plans with you.  You keep giving her the benefit of the doubt, after all we are busy humans these days.  Yet a month goes by and all you have had is one date a lot of promises. This is more than likely a flake.  Your first clue should have been when she wouldn't pin down a date right away and put you off.  She isn't that into you.  A woman into you would have encouraged you and set the date and actually shown up.

I will tell a man just like I tell a woman about men that disappear.  Forget her.  She isn't ready for a relationship or she just isn't into you.  Move on to a woman that is.  There are good women out there that are not flakes.  Women that are looking for someone like you.  You can't find these women as long as you keep wasting your time on flakes.

I know so many men who will meet a woman and close all options just in hopes that it might work out.  They invest time into making it work while she isn't investing the same effort.  Time goes by and they hear "lets be friends".  Sigh....When a woman says she just wants to be friends, she is not attracted to you.  It's that simple.

If you find yourself complaining about all these flakey women, I suggest you stop accepting these women into your life.  It's just as much your fault for not being able to recognize a flake and just as much your fault if you try to spend time with a woman who is not ready for a relationship if a relationship is what you want.

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Friday, August 12, 2011

Why She Is Never In The Mood

Michael Fiore says it all in this video about how to turn even the coldest woman to Hot!  Michael was on the Rachael Raye show amazing audiences.


Wednesday, August 10, 2011

Text Her In Love

Some think texting is for teenagers. They think it's silly and that it hinders real communication. While there may be some truth to this there are a few things you might want to think about before dismissing texting as a tool to enhance your relationship.

A few years ago I was in a relationship with a man that used texting a lot. I don't know if he just knew how to do it instinctively or if he had read one of the online texting guides but I do know this. His texts always made me smile. I had a ring tone assigned to this man. His texts were never mundane, always playful and he never texted me to death. The result. Every time I heard that ring tone, my heart would skip a few beats. I would get excited to hear from him. He was creating triggers and his texts helped me to fall in love with him.

He knowingly or unknowingly created a trigger with his texts. His texts would trigger a euphoric feeling in me. This trigger was so strong. Triggers can also change. He broke up with me. I was heart broke. Anytime after that if he called or texted and I heard that ring tone, it triggered deep sadness. I had to change his ring tone. Triggers can be powerful. They can cause us to feel deep strong emotions.

What are your texts triggering in your girl? Do you text mundane things like can you bring home the milk? Do you use your texts to say you are running late, or convey any other boring details. If so, you aren't texting love. Your texts are not positive triggers. If you can learn to text her things that give her warm fuzzy feelings, you can cement your emotional attraction further and deeper. Yes you can text her in love.

Triggers are powerful. Think about an addict. What is one of the first things an addict has to do to break free of an addiction. He has to remove the triggers. That cup of coffee that triggers the cigarette. Texting love is like creating an addiction with your triggers. She becomes addicted to you.

Stop using texts to your woman for anything other than texting love or fun loving things. Create that trigger in her with your texts and help her fall in love with you using these triggers as a tool. You can be playful, or sexual, and engage her imagination with text messages. Your texts become something that is just between you and her. It's those little things that add up and grow emotional attraction and yes text love!  Emotional attraction is what makes a woman fall in love.

I can also remember how it felt when I didn't get a text from a particular man. It didn't feel good. This only worked to heighten the effect of the trigger he created. I would feel relief when I did hear from him. Relief, another positive trigger was created. It's a bit like Pavlov's dog if you think about it. You can text her in love
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Thursday, July 14, 2011

How To Find Love - Throw Away That Stupid List

Do you want to find love with a great woman? You wonder what list I am talking about? That stupid list in your head that you have of what the woman is supposed to be like, look like and all of that stuff. It's limiting your success at getting what you want and deserve.

I know men who are very specific in their lists. She can't smoke, she must exercise, she must be under 130 pounds, she must be this or that. She can't do this or that. These lists and expectations are killing you, trust me.

I have known men who have the silliest deal breakers. Don't get me wrong, women have them too. Things like she must love animals though? If she doesn't love animals she must be a bad person. Here is a fact, we don't know why people like or don't like certain things until we give them a chance and get to know them.

Example about the not loving animals thing. I am not an animal lover. There is a reason. As a child my mother took all of my animals and dropped them off in random places because she didn't like animals. As a child I learned that to attach to animals was pointless because they would vanish. Does that make me a bad person? Well many a man would not date me, yet they didn't know the entire story because they didn't give me a chance. I have a cat now by the way an am considering a dog.

Love does not always come in the package you had expected. I am not suggesting you settle, no far from it. I am suggesting you may not be able to recognize it if you are one of these people with a list or must haves. Add you list to your fear of rejection or your past experiences that may be clouding you ability to know it when it comes your way and you will never know how to find love.

I am a huge advocate of online dating. I have many a success story of how love was found online. Thing is, men carry that list with them to the online dating and fail again and then blame the women. Do you ever hear yourself saying women only want the bad boys? If so, you might want to rethink this. It's not true. I could go on and on. I do however, believe women do the same things. It's a wonder we ever get together.

If you want to know how to find love, open up to new possibilities. I have a client, he is a biker dude. He was wanting of course a biker chick. The biker chicks just wanted to ride his Harley. I encouraged him to start mailing different types of women. He resisted me in the beginning. Guess what kind of woman he is now in a relationship with? A book worm who has never been on the back of a Harley. They look like a mighty odd couple, but are blissfully happy. Lucky for him this woman was willing to throw away her list as well, but he did have to put some work into her. He says she is worth it all.

Another thing I have to mention if you are looking for love is this. You may need to search inside yourself and make some attitude changes. Men for some reason resist this more so than women. I have proof of this by the way. Women come to me way quicker for help than men do. There are resources out there, really good ones to help you online. Invest in them, do the work. It pays off.

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If you are doing online dating and you just tossed a profile up there, with your list of great qualities and the qualities of your dream woman, don't expect a lot. You really do get back what you put into things. If you want to find love, take it serious. It's not going to come knocking on your door. You have to do some work.

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Monday, July 11, 2011

Sexting Tips - How to Sext Her Into Bed

First, this is geared towards married men or men already in a relationship. Of course the principles will work for men in general wanting to get laid, but that is not something I am a huge advocate, but to each his own.

So often I hear men say or joke about how their women just don't seem to want to have sex like they did when they first met. This happens. The honeymoon phase wears off. It takes more to get the woman turned on. Ever made a move towards your girlfriend or wife to have her go a bit cold or tell you she is tired. She hates doing this, trust me, but she really doesn't feel like it. Does she not initiate or rarely initiate sex anymore? This is really a shame because it doesn't have to be this way, but I can tell you why.

Stress, day to day life gets in the way. A woman's desire sort of goes to sleep. They aren't going to just wake up all on their own, you are going to have to help her some. You need to wake her up.

Men can go from zero to 100 in just minutes because they are visually stimulated. I could walk out of the bedroom with panties on or just heels and my boyfriend would be sitting on ready. It would be instant because men are visually stimulated. This is not the case with women, we aren't visually stimulated.

You can send flowers or buy her gifts, but this isn't going to work either. She is touched and thinks it's sweet, but her carnal sex drive it will not awaken. A woman is stimulated by what she feels and imagines. Her erogenous zone is her mind. Her mind is her biggest sex organ.

What turns a woman on? A man is turned on by porn for the most part. A picture of a man with this raging hard on is not what gets a woman excited and dying to jump your bones. Have you ever read those crazy romance novels? I have. I am not a fan of them, but I will confess, I have become soaking wet from the language that is used in them and the pictures they create in my imagination.

So how to you do this by sexting? You stimulate her biggest sex organ, her mind, imagination and how she feels. By doing this you give her permission to open up her desires to you. Desires that may embarrass her or that she may find difficult to share. If you are the one stimulating her imagination and helping her create these pictures, yes by a few texts, you can turn your sex life around. You can have her dying to get her hands on you regardless.

I recently got a sext message from a guy who has read the sexting book. A few lines flipped my stressed out switch from off to on. He sent this one message. "I can't stop thinking about you this morning". I replied "Why" Now he could have been crude, or highly sexual, but he didn't. He played with my imagination and let me lead the fantasy from there after a few texts. He replied to my why with this. "Your looked delicious in my shirt this morning".

I won't share the rest of this conversation, but let's just say, it escalated. He opened the door and gave me permission so to speak to be bad. If you don't think you can text your woman into bed, I got news for you, you can. Just not like you may think. Sexting tips for men are far different than sexting tips for women, trust me on this one.

Text her into bed tonight.