Tuesday, January 25, 2011

Calling and Texting Women You Like - This is Critical

When texting or calling a girl you like it's critical that you don't go over board and kill her attraction. Your instinct when you meet a girl that you really like is to reach out and touch her. You want to communicate with her because face it, it feels good. If you want to build attraction though and an emotional connection when texting a girl you like, it's very important that you go easy boy.

An example. Cindy met Don. They really hit if off. Don got Cindy's number and asked her out. They had the first date and there was some mutual chemistry, lots of it. Next morning Don sends Cindy a harmless text. "Good Morning Beautiful". Cindy thinks aw, how sweet. 5 minutes later, he texts her what a great time he had. She still thinks aw, how sweet.

The day goes on, Don sends more texts, tries to engage her in conversation. Wow, Cindy is now wondering if Don isn't maybe a little needy, maybe even desperate. That night he texts her "Good night Sweetie". Her attraction just dropped a few degrees. Women do like to be challenged. When you come running out of the gate full speed ahead, well you took away any challenge or intrigue she might have felt.

She stills gives him the benefit of the doubt and sees him again, but to her horror, the texts just keep getting closer and closer together. The funny sexy guy has turned annoying on her. When texting a girl you like, you want to be flirty, you want to be fun and you don't want to be annoying.

I know you want her to know you are interested and you think those texts are showing her you like her. The fact is all they are showing her is you don't have a life and you are boring. She starts to not answer all of Don's texts, then he starts questioning her. "Are you upset?" "Do you not want to talk to me today?" Texts that show him in a very unattractive not so confident light.

Fast forward a couple of weeks. Cindy has the talk. She tells Don she just wants to be friends. She tells her girlfriends that if he would have just not texted her so much, maybe she would have given him a chance.

Had Don known some really good flirty techniques, this story might have a different ending. Unfortunately, Don is off to repeat the same mistake with the next girl he likes. Texting is a huge attraction killer, but it can be an equally destructive buzz killer. When texting a girl you like, less really is more.

I have swooned and been swooned by some really skilled texters. I have hung on their every text and I have also cringed at the sound of the phone.

Wednesday, January 12, 2011

Be The Jerk Women Love

Why do women love jerks?

This is a question you've probably asked yourself many times in your life. And you might even wonder why women will dump a guy who treats her good, only to go after an arrogant dick!

It seems like guys complain about this problem all the time. I have heard it many times. One of my best guy friends is always whining about how all girls want is to be his friend.
Usually he'll complain about treating a woman REALLY well, but losing her to some schmuck who'll only ends up mistreating her.

So why does this happen?

Well that's a difficult question to answer. The answer is jerks are NOT boring. And there's an interesting explanation of why this is true. But before we get to that, let's talk about the OPPOSITE of the jerk- "The Nice Guy".

In a lot of the chick flicks, "The Nice Guy" was the sweet, caring dude who secretly wanted to be with the Prom Queen. He's clueless with women, but has a heart of gold. And at the very end, the popular girl realizes how wonderful he is AND they live happily ever after.

Unfortunately life doesn't work this way!

In the REAL WORLD, a overly-friendly, nice guy bores the crap out of women. When dealing with a woman, he takes on the role of her friend and listens to her problems and hopes that someday she'll want to be with him instead of the jerk that just broke her heart.

The problem is nice guys reach women on a LOGICAL level, instead of an EMOTIONAL level. He may make a great FRIEND, but he's doing nothing to create sexual attraction.

Women end up with jerks because they provide an emotional charge. Sure he can act like an asshole and hurt her feelings, but he ALSO provides excitement AND arousal. Around a jerk, a woman never really knows what to expect. All she feels is the butterflies and excitement when he is near.

Now there's good news here...EVERY woman has dated a jerk at some point in her life. And from this experience, she's learned that it's not healthy to be around a man like this. However MOST women want that emotional charge WITHOUT the baggage that a jerk often provides. Not an easy task.

In short, she wants a man who is compassionate, but also a little bit of a bad boy.

By understanding a woman's desire for an emotional experience, you provide her with the perfect balance between 'The Nice Guy' and the jerk. When you're talking to women, you want to show ALL the qualities of the jerk (leadership, spontaneity, social dominance and humor) without being the wussy nice guy that typically repulses women.

In other words, you can use your conversation skills to playfully tease a woman, while keeping the comfort level she would find with "The Nice Guy".

This is called "Assumed Familiarity". Here you'll act like her buddy by teasing her in a friendly manner, but at the same time, you're subtly showing her attractive qualities that she wants in a man.

Now this can be a hard concept for many guys to grasp. It's pretty hard to strike that delicate balance between the jerk and nice guy. Most of it involves creating emotional attraction without being perceived as being a jerk.

Monday, January 3, 2011

How to Call a Girl You Like

Rule number one, less is more. Trust me, an attractive quality girl gets called and texted a lot. She has experienced lots of guys who go overboard and present no challenge at all. It's really easy for a hot girl to attract men. It's not so easy for an attractive, hot, quality girl to find a guy that piques her interest. Trust me on this. This is critical especially in the beginning stages. This is when the attraction starts or stops.

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When texting and calling girls, if you go overboard, she is going to see you as desperate. You want to convey you have a life and although you like her, she is not the center of your world. Women love a mystery. When calling girls or texting girls, the less you do it, the more her imagination goes into play and the more mysterious you will be. Mystery builds attraction. I don't mean go days or weeks without calling, that is just plain stupid. If you really like her though, your instinct leads you to call her more. Resist this. Call her less.

Ever noticed how it seems the less interesting not so high quality girls seem to fall all over you at times. Think about it. How are you texting them? Probably not so enthusiastically. This intrigues them and they want you more. So when calling a girl that you like or that is hot or high quality do it as if she was just another ordinary girl you aren't so into.

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Rule number 2, don't call or text her and have nothing to say. You want to make her smile. You want her to associate your calls and texts with positive feelings. You want to create an anchor to these positive feelings. The anchor is going to be the phone ringing and her seeing your name pop up. Don't bore her, be funny and confident. If you don't have a lot to say, well get off the phone or stop texting. End the conversation, have your escape route already in place before you call. This also puts mystery into it when you end the conversation first. Leave her wanting more.

Now confidence is a big thing when calling a girl. If you are calling all the time again, this is not good. It shows her you aren't confident enough in yourself and that you need her constant validation. That is why less is more. If you call every other day for example, well apparently you are confident in yourself, otherwise you would be ringing her phone off the hook. Sometimes it's more in what you don't say or do that speaks the volumes.

When calling a girl or texting a girl, remember, she is just a girl. If she is a high quality girl or hot girl, well she is still just a girl. This is the attitude to have. Remember that women do like a challenge, so don't be too easy. The key is to get her thinking about you. You want to master the calling and texting girls to get her to think about you when you aren't around. Once a girl starts thinking about you, well she is hooked.

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Wednesday, December 15, 2010

How To Get Her Sexually Attracted To You

How To Get Her To Feel Sexually Attracted To You

By Alex Allman, author of Revolutionary Sex



I want to share with you 2 things that I
believe any man can do... that will make you much
more sexually attractive to women.

If you are single this can get you more dates...
If you are married, just try to imagine how much
better your relationship could become if you knew
how to trigger your wife's sexual attraction for
you?

In other words... this is important stuff, so
read on...

Let me start by asking you a question...

What do WOMEN think is "sexy" anyway?

Tattoos? Clean-cut guys in well tailored
suits? Danger? Money? Muscles? A feeling of
security? Musicians and poets? Power? Pretty
boys? Tough guys? Bad boys? Brains? A great
sense of humor?

Sure. Of course. There are women that
find each of these things sexy.

Some women like tattooed, rocker types.
Some get turned on by clean-cut, Wall Street types,
some like 'em pretty and some like 'em tough, etc.

But is there something that ALL women think
is sexy? Is there something that really pushes the
hot-button on every girl you'll ever meet?

There is.

In fact, there are two things.

And these two things are so powerful in the
way that they affect women, that if you strongly
exhibit these two qualities, it can overcome just
about anything else.

In other words, if you have these qualities,
you will be sexually attractive to a woman that
usually goes for tattooed guys even if you're a
Wall Street guy, or vice-versa.

And the really great news is, they are qualities
that any man can acquire if he's willing to LEARN
and to work at it a bit.

And, yes, I'm going to tell you what they
are...

What you do with this information after that,
is up to you...

Women are generally creatures of emotion,
and men generally are about facts and results.

Of course this isn't always true, but
pretty close.

And it's especially true when it comes to
sexual relationships. Men want facts and results
(like: what's your phone number and when are we gonna
get it on?).

But women are much more emotionally driven.
(like: we'll get it on when it FEELS right to me.)

I challenge you to find a woman that
disagrees with that statement.

Emotions and feelings are what really
motivate most women, and your ability to make
her FEEL things, your "emotional power" over her,
is key to her feelings of sexual attraction.

PASSION is the language of emotional power.
And for a woman, it is the best indicator of a
man's ability to FEEL things strongly...

And make HER feel things strongly...

And THAT drives women crazy.

Passion is the first of the two things that all
women find sexually attractive.

Does it matter what you have a passion for?

Well, for starters, you can't go wrong with
SEXUAL passion.

But she's not going to be able to read that
in you immediately unless you go around with a t-
shirt that says, "Hey Girls: Passionate Lover Right
Here"

(I don't recommend it, by the way, but hey,
it COULD work).

But seriously, passion about anything is a
turn on for women.

I admit, and I guess it's obvious if you
live on this planet, that artistic passion... like
passion for playing the guitar or writing powerful
poetry is more attractive than passion for theoretical
mathematics...

But I PROMISE you, even passion for
theoretical mathematics is seriously sexy to any
woman who encounters it.

The problem is, the mathematician usually
doesn't believe that others share his passion and
so he, like most men, walks around suppressing or
hiding his passion and his emotional power.

For women, these timid men that walk around
all covered up and too weak to show their emotional
power are all the same.

They are guys that are too shy or too afraid
to express their passions for the guitar or poetry
or mathematics. And so she can be pretty darn sure
that they are too timid to show their passion in bed.

In other words...

They are just like the last guy that failed
to impress her in bed.

I suppose that there are some passions that
don't impress women-- like, say, passion for
watching Monday Night Football with a can of beer
in your hand...

But that is only because it is a passion that
is so common that women don't discern it as a
measure of emotional power-- just a "guy thing."

But if the same guy that went completely crazy
with enthusiasm during the football game could
bring that same kind of passion to other things in
his life-- almost any woman would find herself drawn
to him... maybe even fantasizing about him.

If you are married and your wife sees your
passion for football, but feels excluded from it,
then the problem is your inability to SHARE your
passions with her.

I dare you to find a new passion (or re-find an
old one) that kindles your excitement, and then
share that excitement, without filtering it, really
getting excited about it WITH your woman. Watch
the result it has on her... watch how she gets
swept up by it and gets pulled into you masculine
power...

Sure, she may gently tease you in the moment for
getting all excited about something she thinks is
silly... but...

Watch what happens later that evening when you
get into bed.

But getting back to my example about the
mathematician...

A girl asks him, "what are you doing?" and he
mumbled under his breath, "It's just math... you
wouldn't be interested..."

What would it take for the mathematician to
really show his passion, to really blow a woman's
mind with his emotional intensity on the subject?

First of all it takes some guts. Because he is
used to hiding his passion, like most of us are.

What does it take to REALLY be yourself and
not care what other people think? What does it take
to be so comfortable in your own skin that what other
people think doesn't matter to you?

Massive confidence.

And, as it turns out, THAT is the second
quality that all women find sexy:

CONFIDENCE.

A woman can never completely let go and
trust a man that does not display confidence.

It helps if you know what you are doing...
But more important is to have the attitude and the
rock-solid BELIEF that you know.

In the presence of a man like that, most
women feel huge amounts of sexual attraction.

Often they can't even tell you why. They
just say, "there's something about him."

And to really rock a woman's world in the
bedroom, the best place to start is to be confident
about your sexual ability and your sexual identity.

This sexual confidence and PASSION during love-
making is the single biggest turn-on for most women.

It is what allows her to surrender herself to
experience pleasure that she probably has never even
dreamt of.

Since the ability for a man to SHOW his passion
comes down to having confidence, I guess you could say
that confidence is the more important quality in being
sexually attractive to your woman.

And that makes sense.

Because while most women wouldn't explain it quite
as carefully as I have done in this article,
again, I challenge you:

Ask any woman you know if she agrees with this
statement-- that "confidence" is the single biggest
thing that all women find sexually attractive.

I think you'll see very quickly that I'm on to
something very big and very true, and that you
need to learn more about it--

So, here's the big question...

I said that ANY guy could learn to do these
things that women find so sexually attractive.

So HOW DO YOU become the kind of sexually
confident guy that women fantasize about?

In my experience, it's a bit more complicated
than just deciding "I will be sexually confident
from now on."

But I want you to know that it's not so much
more complicated that it can't be learned.

In fact, I believe ANY man can display massive
sexual confidence... the kind of sexual confidence
that has his woman crawling all over him all the
time... just by learning a few simple things.

The keys are both External... learning the
actual skills, techniques, and "competence" in the
bedroom that breeds confidence...

And Internal... learning to silence the voices
of doubt and judgment (that women can sense),
that can destroy that passionate sexual confidence
before you ever have a chance.

On the one hand there is nothing "hard" about
this process...

On the other hand, it's not likely you can go
it on your own or that you'll figure it out "by
accident". And because the woman in your life
has gotten used to you not having this confidence
and passion, and she will resist you trying to
change... it will freak her out a bit.

You need the tools to handle all of these
factors and really grow into your new identity
comfortably and happily.

I believe it will profoundly change your life
and your relationship. And both you and your woman
will be so much happier and more fulfilled when
you have done it.

Plus, she will be so sexually satisfied that very
little else will matter!

A great way to get started is to download
your copy of my online eBook and start reading it
on your computer right now.

It is is filled with incredible techniques
and tips to take your sexual relationship to
levels that you can't believe until you experience
them.

You can find the book and my FREE, sex tips
newsletter right here:

Learn To Be Sexual Confident

Tuesday, December 14, 2010

Texting a Woman You Really Like a Lot

You finally met a woman you really like. How you communicate with her is a big in determining if she is going to like you back. It's a fine line in texting women. It's easy when you aren't that into her, but when you are, suddenly, you are second guessing your every move.

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When texting a woman you like, you want to spark her interests. You don't want go into overkill and appear desperate. If you go about this the wrong way, you can kill her attraction. Texting a woman is powerful, because unlike men, women do respond to words. Not only do they respond, they analyze the crap out of everything a man says. You know women, it's true.

Think about this, how often is it that the woman you aren't that into is more into you? Why is this? Maybe because you don't go over board. You text her at random, and aren't so available. For some reason this makes her want you more. That old human trait, she wants what she can't have. Keep this in mind when texting a woman you really like.

I am not suggesting you play games, I am just suggesting that you treat her somewhat like you aren't that into her. Don't start texting her all day long. I know you want to reach out and touch her, but there is some truth to absence makes the heart grow fonder. Engage in a conversation daily is fine, but keep it down to a few texts and try to be the one to end the conversation. A sign that she is into you, if you end the conversation and she sends you one more text, you got her on the hook.

Women like intrigue and mystery. If you are texting a woman all the time, or telling her your every move, it's no mystery. Sometimes it's in what you don't say that gets her interest sparked. If she texts you and asks a question, dance around the answer for a while. Let her work for it. This is a way to measure her interest. If she does keep going for an answer, again, you got her hooked.

When texting a woman you really like, you want to be fun and flirty. You don't want to send her boring texts about mundane things going on in your day. Keep those things to yourself. I know you may be really wanting to send some sort of text a woman you like to check to see if she is still there. Hold off. Only text her when you have something that will make her smile or put good thoughts in her head about you. Leave the boring stuff behind.

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Sunday, November 28, 2010

How Texting a Girl Can Backfire and Turn Her Off

Texting being the biggest dating tool available can be used to turn a girl on, but if used incorrectly, it can be a huge turnoff. Texting a girl should always be done in moderation. There is a such thing as overkill. This applies also to calling. The key here to remember is less is more.

I am going to share a story here with you about Jack and Diane. They met at happy hour one afternoon and hit it off. Jack got Diane's number and texted her the next day. Jack immediately jumped in and started texting her Good Morning everyday, even before their first date. Diane thought it sweet and really didn't think nothing of it.

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Fast forward, they start dating. They hit it off, things are good. Jack steps up the texting, now not only is it Good Morning, but he is sharing bits and pieces of his day, staying in constant contact with Diane. Now there are so many women out there complaining that their guys don't text or call enough, so what is the problem here?

Let's go forward a couple more months. Jack and Diane are still dating, but Diane has slowed down on her responses to Jack. He texts her while she is at work, while she is shopping, it's just too much. Diane goes out with the girls. Jack texts her half the night and she can't relax. She starts ignoring him, so he calls. She has to assure him everything is ok, but she would like to enjoy her evening.

Diane is now frustrated with the way the relationship is going. She feels like Jack doesn't trust in what they have, as he seems to need to keep in touch constantly. She starts seeing this as clingy needy behavior. She doesn't feel like Jack trusts her anymore although he claims he does.

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Diane cuts her phone off for an entire weekend. Jack has pushed her to the limit and killed her attraction. Jack sees his behavior as considerate. He doesn't understand he took away all of the challenge, all of the mystery by being to available with his constant texting.

A challenge and some mystery are what builds attraction with women. There are texting techniques you can use to build the attraction but there is a such thing as overkill. When texting a girl, if you want it to last or you want to keep her, remember less is more. Click Here to get over 101 proven flirty text messages

Wednesday, November 24, 2010

Top 4 Mistakes Men Make in Bed

1. Asking Her What Turns Her On

Talk to women any day and you will find their biggest complaint is communication, men just don't really know how. Asking her seems logical right? Wrong. We appreciate the effort, really we do, but for most of us, opening up like that is not an easy task. We want a man who leads, who pays attention and knows what to do. We do understand you can't read minds, but we know somewhere inside that if you pay really close attention to the signals of our body, you will learn what turns us on without asking.

If you just ask her "What turns you on?" you might get a good answer. She might even like it when you ask her. But there is a strong chance that, on some unconscious level, she will feel a weakness in you and be disappointed.

She will be less turned on by the sexual experience if she feels weakness. The key is to get her to open up and get her to show you without you asking.

2. Using Techniques to Please Her

Techniques are great, but again, a woman's orgasm really is directly connected with her brain. The problem with these techniques is that all women are different. What works on one, will not work on another. A woman can tell when you are just focused on a mastering a technique. This means one thing to her, you aren't focused on her but on what you are doing at the time. She then feels pressure to reward you for your efforts. We often fake orgasms at times like this just to get you to stop. It makes us very uncomfortable to have a man doing some robotic thing hoping to bring us to orgasm.

3. Not Understanding the Sexual Language of Women

Sexual communication is foreign to most men. Women give off all kinds of signals, but you aren't understanding her most of the time. Have you ever been going down on a woman and for some reason you feel she may be up there sleeping? Have you ever had a woman getting really excited and she pushed you away or stopped you? This is happening because again, you aren't paying attention and she is frustrated. If you can learn how to listen to a woman's body and really pay attention, she is capable of having an incredible sexual experience. Tons of signals are being sent out when a woman is close to orgasm. Men misinterpret them for many reason, one of which is he may be looking for the standard orgasm response. Screaming, moaning,what ever he has encountered before. Not all women are alike and I can't stress this enough. Some orgasm quietly and you have to pay attention to her breathing. Others thrash around. Some are still. It is critical to be able to read her sexual language and all women speak it differently.

4. Not Doing Anything To Fix It

The 4th and biggest mistake of all. If you don't do anything to fix it. Women will stay and remain faithful to you if you are an incredible lover, don't underestimate the power of it. If you aren't doing it, chances are somewhere out there is a man who will take the time and effort to take her to higher sexual levels.

Are you the best lover she ever had? Are you sure? You can be.