How To Get Her Sexually Attracted To You

How To Get Her To Feel Sexually Attracted To You

By Alex Allman, author of Revolutionary Sex



I want to share with you 2 things that I
believe any man can do... that will make you much
more sexually attractive to women.

If you are single this can get you more dates...
If you are married, just try to imagine how much
better your relationship could become if you knew
how to trigger your wife's sexual attraction for
you?

In other words... this is important stuff, so
read on...

Let me start by asking you a question...

What do WOMEN think is "sexy" anyway?

Tattoos? Clean-cut guys in well tailored
suits? Danger? Money? Muscles? A feeling of
security? Musicians and poets? Power? Pretty
boys? Tough guys? Bad boys? Brains? A great
sense of humor?

Sure. Of course. There are women that
find each of these things sexy.

Some women like tattooed, rocker types.
Some get turned on by clean-cut, Wall Street types,
some like 'em pretty and some like 'em tough, etc.

But is there something that ALL women think
is sexy? Is there something that really pushes the
hot-button on every girl you'll ever meet?

There is.

In fact, there are two things.

And these two things are so powerful in the
way that they affect women, that if you strongly
exhibit these two qualities, it can overcome just
about anything else.

In other words, if you have these qualities,
you will be sexually attractive to a woman that
usually goes for tattooed guys even if you're a
Wall Street guy, or vice-versa.

And the really great news is, they are qualities
that any man can acquire if he's willing to LEARN
and to work at it a bit.

And, yes, I'm going to tell you what they
are...

What you do with this information after that,
is up to you...

Women are generally creatures of emotion,
and men generally are about facts and results.

Of course this isn't always true, but
pretty close.

And it's especially true when it comes to
sexual relationships. Men want facts and results
(like: what's your phone number and when are we gonna
get it on?).

But women are much more emotionally driven.
(like: we'll get it on when it FEELS right to me.)

I challenge you to find a woman that
disagrees with that statement.

Emotions and feelings are what really
motivate most women, and your ability to make
her FEEL things, your "emotional power" over her,
is key to her feelings of sexual attraction.

PASSION is the language of emotional power.
And for a woman, it is the best indicator of a
man's ability to FEEL things strongly...

And make HER feel things strongly...

And THAT drives women crazy.

Passion is the first of the two things that all
women find sexually attractive.

Does it matter what you have a passion for?

Well, for starters, you can't go wrong with
SEXUAL passion.

But she's not going to be able to read that
in you immediately unless you go around with a t-
shirt that says, "Hey Girls: Passionate Lover Right
Here"

(I don't recommend it, by the way, but hey,
it COULD work).

But seriously, passion about anything is a
turn on for women.

I admit, and I guess it's obvious if you
live on this planet, that artistic passion... like
passion for playing the guitar or writing powerful
poetry is more attractive than passion for theoretical
mathematics...

But I PROMISE you, even passion for
theoretical mathematics is seriously sexy to any
woman who encounters it.

The problem is, the mathematician usually
doesn't believe that others share his passion and
so he, like most men, walks around suppressing or
hiding his passion and his emotional power.

For women, these timid men that walk around
all covered up and too weak to show their emotional
power are all the same.

They are guys that are too shy or too afraid
to express their passions for the guitar or poetry
or mathematics. And so she can be pretty darn sure
that they are too timid to show their passion in bed.

In other words...

They are just like the last guy that failed
to impress her in bed.

I suppose that there are some passions that
don't impress women-- like, say, passion for
watching Monday Night Football with a can of beer
in your hand...

But that is only because it is a passion that
is so common that women don't discern it as a
measure of emotional power-- just a "guy thing."

But if the same guy that went completely crazy
with enthusiasm during the football game could
bring that same kind of passion to other things in
his life-- almost any woman would find herself drawn
to him... maybe even fantasizing about him.

If you are married and your wife sees your
passion for football, but feels excluded from it,
then the problem is your inability to SHARE your
passions with her.

I dare you to find a new passion (or re-find an
old one) that kindles your excitement, and then
share that excitement, without filtering it, really
getting excited about it WITH your woman. Watch
the result it has on her... watch how she gets
swept up by it and gets pulled into you masculine
power...

Sure, she may gently tease you in the moment for
getting all excited about something she thinks is
silly... but...

Watch what happens later that evening when you
get into bed.

But getting back to my example about the
mathematician...

A girl asks him, "what are you doing?" and he
mumbled under his breath, "It's just math... you
wouldn't be interested..."

What would it take for the mathematician to
really show his passion, to really blow a woman's
mind with his emotional intensity on the subject?

First of all it takes some guts. Because he is
used to hiding his passion, like most of us are.

What does it take to REALLY be yourself and
not care what other people think? What does it take
to be so comfortable in your own skin that what other
people think doesn't matter to you?

Massive confidence.

And, as it turns out, THAT is the second
quality that all women find sexy:

CONFIDENCE.

A woman can never completely let go and
trust a man that does not display confidence.

It helps if you know what you are doing...
But more important is to have the attitude and the
rock-solid BELIEF that you know.

In the presence of a man like that, most
women feel huge amounts of sexual attraction.

Often they can't even tell you why. They
just say, "there's something about him."

And to really rock a woman's world in the
bedroom, the best place to start is to be confident
about your sexual ability and your sexual identity.

This sexual confidence and PASSION during love-
making is the single biggest turn-on for most women.

It is what allows her to surrender herself to
experience pleasure that she probably has never even
dreamt of.

Since the ability for a man to SHOW his passion
comes down to having confidence, I guess you could say
that confidence is the more important quality in being
sexually attractive to your woman.

And that makes sense.

Because while most women wouldn't explain it quite
as carefully as I have done in this article,
again, I challenge you:

Ask any woman you know if she agrees with this
statement-- that "confidence" is the single biggest
thing that all women find sexually attractive.

I think you'll see very quickly that I'm on to
something very big and very true, and that you
need to learn more about it--

So, here's the big question...

I said that ANY guy could learn to do these
things that women find so sexually attractive.

So HOW DO YOU become the kind of sexually
confident guy that women fantasize about?

In my experience, it's a bit more complicated
than just deciding "I will be sexually confident
from now on."

But I want you to know that it's not so much
more complicated that it can't be learned.

In fact, I believe ANY man can display massive
sexual confidence... the kind of sexual confidence
that has his woman crawling all over him all the
time... just by learning a few simple things.

The keys are both External... learning the
actual skills, techniques, and "competence" in the
bedroom that breeds confidence...

And Internal... learning to silence the voices
of doubt and judgment (that women can sense),
that can destroy that passionate sexual confidence
before you ever have a chance.

On the one hand there is nothing "hard" about
this process...

On the other hand, it's not likely you can go
it on your own or that you'll figure it out "by
accident". And because the woman in your life
has gotten used to you not having this confidence
and passion, and she will resist you trying to
change... it will freak her out a bit.

You need the tools to handle all of these
factors and really grow into your new identity
comfortably and happily.

I believe it will profoundly change your life
and your relationship. And both you and your woman
will be so much happier and more fulfilled when
you have done it.

Plus, she will be so sexually satisfied that very
little else will matter!

A great way to get started is to download
your copy of my online eBook and start reading it
on your computer right now.

It is is filled with incredible techniques
and tips to take your sexual relationship to
levels that you can't believe until you experience
them.

You can find the book and my FREE, sex tips
newsletter right here:

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Texting a Woman You Really Like a Lot

You finally met a woman you really like. How you communicate with her is a big in determining if she is going to like you back. It's a fine line in texting women. It's easy when you aren't that into her, but when you are, suddenly, you are second guessing your every move.

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When texting a woman you like, you want to spark her interests. You don't want go into overkill and appear desperate. If you go about this the wrong way, you can kill her attraction. Texting a woman is powerful, because unlike men, women do respond to words. Not only do they respond, they analyze the crap out of everything a man says. You know women, it's true.

Think about this, how often is it that the woman you aren't that into is more into you? Why is this? Maybe because you don't go over board. You text her at random, and aren't so available. For some reason this makes her want you more. That old human trait, she wants what she can't have. Keep this in mind when texting a woman you really like.

I am not suggesting you play games, I am just suggesting that you treat her somewhat like you aren't that into her. Don't start texting her all day long. I know you want to reach out and touch her, but there is some truth to absence makes the heart grow fonder. Engage in a conversation daily is fine, but keep it down to a few texts and try to be the one to end the conversation. A sign that she is into you, if you end the conversation and she sends you one more text, you got her on the hook.

Women like intrigue and mystery. If you are texting a woman all the time, or telling her your every move, it's no mystery. Sometimes it's in what you don't say that gets her interest sparked. If she texts you and asks a question, dance around the answer for a while. Let her work for it. This is a way to measure her interest. If she does keep going for an answer, again, you got her hooked.

When texting a woman you really like, you want to be fun and flirty. You don't want to send her boring texts about mundane things going on in your day. Keep those things to yourself. I know you may be really wanting to send some sort of text a woman you like to check to see if she is still there. Hold off. Only text her when you have something that will make her smile or put good thoughts in her head about you. Leave the boring stuff behind.

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How Texting a Girl Can Backfire and Turn Her Off

Texting being the biggest dating tool available can be used to turn a girl on, but if used incorrectly, it can be a huge turnoff. Texting a girl should always be done in moderation. There is a such thing as overkill. This applies also to calling. The key here to remember is less is more.

I am going to share a story here with you about Jack and Diane. They met at happy hour one afternoon and hit it off. Jack got Diane's number and texted her the next day. Jack immediately jumped in and started texting her Good Morning everyday, even before their first date. Diane thought it sweet and really didn't think nothing of it.

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Fast forward, they start dating. They hit it off, things are good. Jack steps up the texting, now not only is it Good Morning, but he is sharing bits and pieces of his day, staying in constant contact with Diane. Now there are so many women out there complaining that their guys don't text or call enough, so what is the problem here?

Let's go forward a couple more months. Jack and Diane are still dating, but Diane has slowed down on her responses to Jack. He texts her while she is at work, while she is shopping, it's just too much. Diane goes out with the girls. Jack texts her half the night and she can't relax. She starts ignoring him, so he calls. She has to assure him everything is ok, but she would like to enjoy her evening.

Diane is now frustrated with the way the relationship is going. She feels like Jack doesn't trust in what they have, as he seems to need to keep in touch constantly. She starts seeing this as clingy needy behavior. She doesn't feel like Jack trusts her anymore although he claims he does.

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Diane cuts her phone off for an entire weekend. Jack has pushed her to the limit and killed her attraction. Jack sees his behavior as considerate. He doesn't understand he took away all of the challenge, all of the mystery by being to available with his constant texting.

A challenge and some mystery are what builds attraction with women. There are texting techniques you can use to build the attraction but there is a such thing as overkill. When texting a girl, if you want it to last or you want to keep her, remember less is more. Click Here to get over 101 proven flirty text messages

Top 4 Mistakes Men Make in Bed

1. Asking Her What Turns Her On

Talk to women any day and you will find their biggest complaint is communication, men just don't really know how. Asking her seems logical right? Wrong. We appreciate the effort, really we do, but for most of us, opening up like that is not an easy task. We want a man who leads, who pays attention and knows what to do. We do understand you can't read minds, but we know somewhere inside that if you pay really close attention to the signals of our body, you will learn what turns us on without asking.

If you just ask her "What turns you on?" you might get a good answer. She might even like it when you ask her. But there is a strong chance that, on some unconscious level, she will feel a weakness in you and be disappointed.

She will be less turned on by the sexual experience if she feels weakness. The key is to get her to open up and get her to show you without you asking.

2. Using Techniques to Please Her

Techniques are great, but again, a woman's orgasm really is directly connected with her brain. The problem with these techniques is that all women are different. What works on one, will not work on another. A woman can tell when you are just focused on a mastering a technique. This means one thing to her, you aren't focused on her but on what you are doing at the time. She then feels pressure to reward you for your efforts. We often fake orgasms at times like this just to get you to stop. It makes us very uncomfortable to have a man doing some robotic thing hoping to bring us to orgasm.

3. Not Understanding the Sexual Language of Women

Sexual communication is foreign to most men. Women give off all kinds of signals, but you aren't understanding her most of the time. Have you ever been going down on a woman and for some reason you feel she may be up there sleeping? Have you ever had a woman getting really excited and she pushed you away or stopped you? This is happening because again, you aren't paying attention and she is frustrated. If you can learn how to listen to a woman's body and really pay attention, she is capable of having an incredible sexual experience. Tons of signals are being sent out when a woman is close to orgasm. Men misinterpret them for many reason, one of which is he may be looking for the standard orgasm response. Screaming, moaning,what ever he has encountered before. Not all women are alike and I can't stress this enough. Some orgasm quietly and you have to pay attention to her breathing. Others thrash around. Some are still. It is critical to be able to read her sexual language and all women speak it differently.

4. Not Doing Anything To Fix It

The 4th and biggest mistake of all. If you don't do anything to fix it. Women will stay and remain faithful to you if you are an incredible lover, don't underestimate the power of it. If you aren't doing it, chances are somewhere out there is a man who will take the time and effort to take her to higher sexual levels.

Are you the best lover she ever had? Are you sure? You can be.

Before You Text a Girl Good Morning

If you have a new girl in your life and are thinking of sending her a good morning text first thing to consider is this. Is she as into you as you are her? When we girls get a good morning text, we know in that instant you are into us. We think, wow he is thinking of me in the morning, this guy really likes me. You have lost some of your mystery appeal here. She now knows she is in. Once a girl knows this, the fun is pretty much over. Do you really want her to know yet that you are thinking of her even when you awake in the morning?

Another thing about texting a girl good morning is you are setting up an expectation that is pretty high. If you are both into one another and it is early on, she is going to start expecting it everyday. It lays ground work for issues ahead. Do you want to be expected to text her every morning? What happens if you stop feeling it for her or miss a few mornings? I will tell you what happens. Women analyze. She will start worrying if you might be getting distant. There is a good chance she may cause some drama. It's like when you tell a girl you are going to call her and you don't. What does she do? You know the answer to that one I am sure.

Last but not least is texting a girl good morning is pretty boring. It doesn't do much to build attraction. It's sweet, but sweet will not make her feel it for you. To build attraction with texting a girl you need to convey mystery and be a challenge. Texting is a huge tool that can be used to build attraction if you do it with skill.

Any guy can send the same old boring messages that we get everyday. Learn to stand out and escalate the attraction to a higher level through texting.

She is Distant - What Happened - What to Do

Ever been dating a woman maybe a few weeks, maybe a few months and all of a sudden she is distant. You can tell in her voice she is less than thrilled when you call, she may stop answering some of your texts and worse she canceled a date. You can feel her pulling away and you don't know why.

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Chances are she is not feeling the attraction she felt earlier. Attraction for a woman is a tricky thing. They like to feel secure, but at the same time they do like mystery. You might want to ask yourself have you been smothering her or maybe being too predictable.

Men often wonder why women love jerks. This is not really true, it's just there is something that jerks can do that the nice guys struggle with. They create attraction. They are not so easy to get and are far from predictable. If you are texting her relentlessly, telling her you miss her and other mushy stuff, this really is a turn off. We start to think, oh boy, if I don't return the sentiments, he is not going to be happy. Then we feel responsible for your happiness. This is huge in killing attraction.

I will share a story about attraction gone south. Tim met Jen. They hit it off, started dating. Tim immediately started texting her everyday. Good Morning, Good Night, sharing parts of his day with her. He sent her flowers. She was flattered at first. How sweet. Weeks go by, he continues. Jen is starting to get bored. She calls me and doesn't know what to do, she feels smothered and is starting to see him as a friend. The more she pulls away, the more he comes after her. She is distant. Relationship dies before it even gets off the ground because Tim wouldn't give her time to miss him, the key element in building attraction.

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If you feel she is distant, don't go after her even harder. Give her some space and time to miss you. Don't ask her for reassurance, this makes you look needy and will kill the attraction even more. If you text her every morning, miss one. Mirror her level of commitment. This shows her you will not allow her to be the center of your universe. This is wildly attractive to a woman.

It's like flowers on Valentines day. You get them for her because it is expected. If you are relentless and predictable, she will come to expect it. A woman would much rather get flowers at random than on a day of celebration. It means so much more.

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Why and How Women Fake Orgasms

Women faking orgasms is very common. I often hear men say she should just tell them how to please her. Truth is though, this isn't really something a woman feels comfortable doing. She knows it may take her longer and she fears this will turn a man off. She is also scared you may see her as a freak.

With the porn out there, it puts some pressure on women. In any porn flick, the women are in these insane positions such as ankles around the neck, or contorted into a pretzel, yet she is screaming her head off in ecstasy. This really isn't realistic. A woman is often self conscious and to have her legs over her head does not make her feel attractive, trust me. She is thinking of her belly and how it might look to you. If you are behind her, she make think her rear is too wide. These things get in the way of our orgasms. An orgasm with a woman starts in her mind.

Just like you don't want to disappoint her, she doesn't want to disappoint you. This is the main reason women fake orgasms. She is thinking of you and not her. Women by nature want to please you. They know how sensitive men are when it comes to his performance. It's often just easier faking an orgasm than risking hurting your feelings.

I know a lot of men who would say their women faking an orgasm is out of the question. Many a man has been fooled by this illusion. Women do fake it. They can actually contract their vaginal muscles and breath and moan and groan just like the porn stars do it. You roll over thinking you are the man and she rolls over frustrated thinking she just put on the show of her life. She has dug herself in and now she doesn't know how to fix it so that you will know how to satisfy her.

If you are having sex with your woman and she is panting and screaming like a banshee ape, there really is a good chance she is faking it. If she really is having an orgasm, her heart starts beating really fast when orgasm begins, she gets flushed, and her breathing is shallow and fast. A woman's nipples go completely erect during an orgasm. This is a little fact they never will share with you because then you would know their secret.

All women fake orgasms at some point, there are few who haven't. We talk about it often with our girlfriends. It's a very common topic among women. They don't feel safe to open up because they are too worried about what you may think. If you want to satisfy her and assure she doesn't have to fake it, this may take opening your mind to the fact that you may not know what you think you know.

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