First of the dating profile tips for men would be no negatives. We don't want to hear about how bad you were treated by the women before us. This tells us you have some serious baggage and chances are good you are not over the "ex" yet. We assume you don't want to play games, so why put that in your profile? That really is a no brainer. Seriously have you ever seen an online dating profile that said, "I love to play games"?
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Second of the dating profile tips for men would be cut all the crap about how honest, warm, loving sincere, loyal and wonderful you are. Honestly almost every profile says this and it gets quite mundane. We have read that so much that we just skip over the part hoping that somewhere in the next paragraph you will have say something interesting.
Third of the dating profile tips for men would be leave out your cars, boats, motorcycles and airplanes. Materialistic are you? Such a turn off. Who cares? If women are responding to you because of your worldly possessions, really is that what you want? Also, please leave your shirt on, leave something for our imagination, we are not the visually stimulated creatures that you are. We connect on an emotional level.
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So what's left, we don't want your baggage, we don't want your wonderful qualities nor your material possissions, so what do we want. We want humor, and interesting. We don't mind knowing your taste in music and maybe what you like to do for fun. We want to know are you stable or maybe a bit on the wild side. What we want is a glimpse of your personality. Not some superficial words.
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Women are now approaching men more and more on dating sites making that first move. The picture helps, but when it comes to online dating, it's the profile we pay attention to. I might be doing a search and run across a divine hunk, but if his profile is lame, well I go next. Your profile is your first impression, don't blow it.
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Writing a good online profile is only the begining of the online dating game. Next is the email correspondence and how to actually get a date. It is not as simple as you would imagine, lots of rejection goes on with these online dating sites. Learn to get rejected more and get more dates.
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Monday, February 22, 2010
Tuesday, February 16, 2010
Facebook Flirting
It seems that facebook is a more practical place to meet singles as opposed to some of the free and paid dating sites. Instead of some fabricated profile that may or may not be true, you have the real personality to view in day to day interaction. You also have references in the form of facebook friends. What dating site has this? So how do you turn facebook into your own personal dating site? It starts with broadening your friends network and a little facebook flirting.
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You have to remember, friends have friends who have friends that have other single friends, brothers and sisters. The broader your network, the greater your chances are of finding romance. The broader your network the more opportunities you will have for flirting on facebook.
To flirt on facebook, you pay attention to the posters and commentors. It may not be the poster that gets your attention, but someone commenting. Toss in your own comment. Make it funny, witty and humorous to get the attention. The more you interact with friends and friends of friends, the bigger your playground for facebook flirting will become. The friend request will come. It does not hurt to make a few friend requests of your own either. What do you have to lose?
This process may not go along as rapidly as it could on a real on line dating site, as it will take much longer. Think of it this way. The wait creates anticipation and the anticipation creates a stronger attraction and bond. Flirting on facebook may not bring instant gratification, but it certainly increases your chances for long term satisfation.
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If you can send a flirty text message, you can surely practice some facebook flirting. If you are not skilled at sexting or sending flirty text messages, there are tons of resources out there to fine tune your skills, take advantage of them. Facebook flirting is fun!
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You have to remember, friends have friends who have friends that have other single friends, brothers and sisters. The broader your network, the greater your chances are of finding romance. The broader your network the more opportunities you will have for flirting on facebook.
To flirt on facebook, you pay attention to the posters and commentors. It may not be the poster that gets your attention, but someone commenting. Toss in your own comment. Make it funny, witty and humorous to get the attention. The more you interact with friends and friends of friends, the bigger your playground for facebook flirting will become. The friend request will come. It does not hurt to make a few friend requests of your own either. What do you have to lose?
This process may not go along as rapidly as it could on a real on line dating site, as it will take much longer. Think of it this way. The wait creates anticipation and the anticipation creates a stronger attraction and bond. Flirting on facebook may not bring instant gratification, but it certainly increases your chances for long term satisfation.
Click Here to get over 101 proven flirty text messages
If you can send a flirty text message, you can surely practice some facebook flirting. If you are not skilled at sexting or sending flirty text messages, there are tons of resources out there to fine tune your skills, take advantage of them. Facebook flirting is fun!
Wednesday, February 10, 2010
Do Women Play Hard to Get?
The fact of the matter is, yes a lot of girls play hard to get. With all of the relationship material out there available at the click of the mouse, more and more girls are learning this technique of "playing hard to get". It's really not a bad thing, it is usually the quality girls that do this. They are looking for a quality guy.
In a girl's mind, if a guy will make a little extra effort to get past her little game, then he may be worth it or a good guy. That really is how we see it. It's not that we want to play these games, we just want a guy who is willing to put in a little extra work to get us. That way we know he really is interested and not just some guy out for one night or something casual.
We want to feel important and special, we are women, it's natural. We don't want to do all the leading, we want the man to lead. When we are not playing a bit hard to get, we are usually doing the calling, initiating and it just does not feel right. We want to be chased.
It gets rather complicated though. The relationship gurus give out the same advice to guys that they do girls. How can we ever meet in the middle. How do you know she is playing hard to get or if she is not that into you?
A girl playing hard to get will not accept a last minute date. She will not answer the phone after a certain hour, say 10 p.m. She will not call or text you first. She is setting her boundaries in the beginning and seriously wouldn't you rather have a girl with boundaries?
If you call in ample time and she accepts or she picks up the phone when you call at a decent hour, chances are good, she is interested, but just wants you to come and get her. It's every woman's fantasy you know. So yes, smart women do play hard to get. The more desperate ones usually don't. Which one do you want?
What do girls/women really want? Do nice guys finish last? What is it that gets them attracted? How do you keep that attraction going?
In a girl's mind, if a guy will make a little extra effort to get past her little game, then he may be worth it or a good guy. That really is how we see it. It's not that we want to play these games, we just want a guy who is willing to put in a little extra work to get us. That way we know he really is interested and not just some guy out for one night or something casual.
We want to feel important and special, we are women, it's natural. We don't want to do all the leading, we want the man to lead. When we are not playing a bit hard to get, we are usually doing the calling, initiating and it just does not feel right. We want to be chased.
It gets rather complicated though. The relationship gurus give out the same advice to guys that they do girls. How can we ever meet in the middle. How do you know she is playing hard to get or if she is not that into you?
A girl playing hard to get will not accept a last minute date. She will not answer the phone after a certain hour, say 10 p.m. She will not call or text you first. She is setting her boundaries in the beginning and seriously wouldn't you rather have a girl with boundaries?
If you call in ample time and she accepts or she picks up the phone when you call at a decent hour, chances are good, she is interested, but just wants you to come and get her. It's every woman's fantasy you know. So yes, smart women do play hard to get. The more desperate ones usually don't. Which one do you want?
What do girls/women really want? Do nice guys finish last? What is it that gets them attracted? How do you keep that attraction going?
Wednesday, February 3, 2010
Asking a Girl Out
This topic was recently addressed in a group on facebook. It consisted of women advising men on how to ask a girl out and what does and does not impress here. The posts are as follows.
Natasha: Girls, I am starting to write manual for boys for how to get a date with a real girl. I posted on my personal page and got gret advice, so I thought I could post here to get more input.
In fact, I think we should all write it together and post it here and on Robin's group "What the hell women want"
Few simple rules to start with:
1. If you want to get her phone number, ask for it. Be brave and say the words: " May I ( Can I) have your phone number please?" Be sincere and only ask if you intend on calling. Don't wait for her to offer her number and if she doesn't, feel rejected. Remember, you haven't asked.
Caroline: When you get her number call her, don't wait days and weeks. If she gave it to you, she is interested, nothing ventured nothing gained.
Natasha: Yes, the key is act like a man, not project your insecurities to her.
Ask for the number like you mean it and mean it. Call without waiting and be open and playful. Keep it light and don't jump into sexual innuendos the first time you are talking to a girl, unless she is paid to do that.
Caroline: There are 900 numbers for that, and websites.
Next just ask her out, just do it. A real date, not ya wanna come over and hang out. That is if you want a real girl. A quality girl and we are assuming that you do know the difference
Natasha: Make sure you are giving her few days advance and choice of time and place. Don't just say you will take her anywhere she wants. Have a plan A and B and tell her what you have in mind. Try to find out while talking, what her preferences are, but if you don't know, just be neutral. Don't offer to take her to places where you hang out with your guys. You want this time to be just for the two of you.
Caroline: We hate the what do you want to do, I dunno, what do you want to do. Just do it. One of the best dates I had in a while we went to the state fair, it was a blast. Something that requires interaction, it helps build attraction, NO MOVIES PLEASE!
Natasha: Mind your manners. You don't have to be stiff, but be respectful. Don't try to fill her out, squeeze a kiss and look in her blouse. Light touching is OK. Think how you would want a guy to act if he was on a date with your sister.
Caroline: Look in her eyes not at her breasts, please. Touch her hair once, lightly is ok.
Natasha: About 90 % of the girls are NOT interested in your truck, bike, boat.
Instead, wear nice shoes and socks. That impresses girls more on a first date.
Susie: "Yes" re the shoes... very important!
Caroline: I could care less what he drives, the fact that he will come to my door and actually pick me up, open the door for me is far more important.
Natasha: If you are picking her up (some girls will not be comfortable on a first date to show you where they live), make sure your car is not full of junk on the front seat. It maybe a good idea to clear the front seat just in case you end up driving together somewhere after you meet.
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This discussion is still going and will be updated at a later date.
There is a group just started on facebook called "What the hell do women want" Feel free to check it out and join.
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Natasha: Girls, I am starting to write manual for boys for how to get a date with a real girl. I posted on my personal page and got gret advice, so I thought I could post here to get more input.
In fact, I think we should all write it together and post it here and on Robin's group "What the hell women want"
Few simple rules to start with:
1. If you want to get her phone number, ask for it. Be brave and say the words: " May I ( Can I) have your phone number please?" Be sincere and only ask if you intend on calling. Don't wait for her to offer her number and if she doesn't, feel rejected. Remember, you haven't asked.
Caroline: When you get her number call her, don't wait days and weeks. If she gave it to you, she is interested, nothing ventured nothing gained.
Natasha: Yes, the key is act like a man, not project your insecurities to her.
Ask for the number like you mean it and mean it. Call without waiting and be open and playful. Keep it light and don't jump into sexual innuendos the first time you are talking to a girl, unless she is paid to do that.
Caroline: There are 900 numbers for that, and websites.
Next just ask her out, just do it. A real date, not ya wanna come over and hang out. That is if you want a real girl. A quality girl and we are assuming that you do know the difference
Natasha: Make sure you are giving her few days advance and choice of time and place. Don't just say you will take her anywhere she wants. Have a plan A and B and tell her what you have in mind. Try to find out while talking, what her preferences are, but if you don't know, just be neutral. Don't offer to take her to places where you hang out with your guys. You want this time to be just for the two of you.
Caroline: We hate the what do you want to do, I dunno, what do you want to do. Just do it. One of the best dates I had in a while we went to the state fair, it was a blast. Something that requires interaction, it helps build attraction, NO MOVIES PLEASE!
Natasha: Mind your manners. You don't have to be stiff, but be respectful. Don't try to fill her out, squeeze a kiss and look in her blouse. Light touching is OK. Think how you would want a guy to act if he was on a date with your sister.
Caroline: Look in her eyes not at her breasts, please. Touch her hair once, lightly is ok.
Natasha: About 90 % of the girls are NOT interested in your truck, bike, boat.
Instead, wear nice shoes and socks. That impresses girls more on a first date.
Susie: "Yes" re the shoes... very important!
Caroline: I could care less what he drives, the fact that he will come to my door and actually pick me up, open the door for me is far more important.
Natasha: If you are picking her up (some girls will not be comfortable on a first date to show you where they live), make sure your car is not full of junk on the front seat. It maybe a good idea to clear the front seat just in case you end up driving together somewhere after you meet.
Click Here to discover how to have 7 Dates or more this month with attractive women
This discussion is still going and will be updated at a later date.
There is a group just started on facebook called "What the hell do women want" Feel free to check it out and join.
Click Here To Access the Dating Secrets Community
Wednesday, January 27, 2010
What Do Women Really Want in a Man
So what do women want in a man. Women are emotional creatures and first you need to understand the we are not visually stimulated. Not that a handsome face won't catch our eye, but he could open his mouth and blow it all in the first sentence. A lot of men lack the confidence it takes to really get attention. Confidence is the number one thing women want in a man. There is nothing sexier than a confident man.
Now I am a woman and I recently signed up to an on line dating site. Now first you have to decide do you want a great woman or a desperate woman and I think you know the answer to that. I consider myself far from desperate, so let me first tell you what a confident, smart woman does on an on line dating site and in all areas for that matter. First she looks at your picture, then she reads your profile. Great women rarely contact you first.
Now day one, tons of hits. I weed through them, if there is no profile, I delete. If the profile talks about how you are looking for your soul mate, I delete, not that I am not looking for mine as well. It just sounds wimpy. Now I read the messages. How are you today? Delete. How is your day? Delete. What are you looking for in a man? Delete. What do you do for fun? Delete. Good morning beautiful or sexy. Delete. Can I have your phone number? Delete. The days is over and one guy survived the cut, the one guy that was funny, confident and the one guy that obviously took the time to get past the picture and read my profile. The one guy that made me smile instead of roll my eyes. Now what was it about that one guy that made me not delete? It wasn't his looks, he was average. It was his confidence and humor and the fact that he did not act desperate that came through in his messages.
Women don't like wimpy, mushy or over accommodating. Men often try to sell themselves by telling what they have, what they can offer, like honesty, love, devotion. Sure we want that, but that is not what is going to attract us to you so that we can discover your wonderful qualities without you having to tell us about them. What I mentioned above holds true in the real dating world as well as the on line dating world. Its about how you flirt with us and make us wanting more, whether its a direct approach, a text message or the way you ask us for a date. So what do women want in a man? We want someone fun who knows how to use body language and verbal language to get a woman's attention.
I am a female who has studied the way men and women interact for years. There are a lot of great men out there not getting the woman that they want because they are going at it all wrong. They don't understand what truly attracts a woman and make her dying to see you again and hang on your every word. There are skills and techniques that you can use that get you in the door and keep you in the door. Stop being the guy that turns into that great woman's friend and learn how to attract women and keep the attraction going. I speak for all the great ladies out there doing the single ladies dance.
Now I am a woman and I recently signed up to an on line dating site. Now first you have to decide do you want a great woman or a desperate woman and I think you know the answer to that. I consider myself far from desperate, so let me first tell you what a confident, smart woman does on an on line dating site and in all areas for that matter. First she looks at your picture, then she reads your profile. Great women rarely contact you first.
Now day one, tons of hits. I weed through them, if there is no profile, I delete. If the profile talks about how you are looking for your soul mate, I delete, not that I am not looking for mine as well. It just sounds wimpy. Now I read the messages. How are you today? Delete. How is your day? Delete. What are you looking for in a man? Delete. What do you do for fun? Delete. Good morning beautiful or sexy. Delete. Can I have your phone number? Delete. The days is over and one guy survived the cut, the one guy that was funny, confident and the one guy that obviously took the time to get past the picture and read my profile. The one guy that made me smile instead of roll my eyes. Now what was it about that one guy that made me not delete? It wasn't his looks, he was average. It was his confidence and humor and the fact that he did not act desperate that came through in his messages.
Women don't like wimpy, mushy or over accommodating. Men often try to sell themselves by telling what they have, what they can offer, like honesty, love, devotion. Sure we want that, but that is not what is going to attract us to you so that we can discover your wonderful qualities without you having to tell us about them. What I mentioned above holds true in the real dating world as well as the on line dating world. Its about how you flirt with us and make us wanting more, whether its a direct approach, a text message or the way you ask us for a date. So what do women want in a man? We want someone fun who knows how to use body language and verbal language to get a woman's attention.
I am a female who has studied the way men and women interact for years. There are a lot of great men out there not getting the woman that they want because they are going at it all wrong. They don't understand what truly attracts a woman and make her dying to see you again and hang on your every word. There are skills and techniques that you can use that get you in the door and keep you in the door. Stop being the guy that turns into that great woman's friend and learn how to attract women and keep the attraction going. I speak for all the great ladies out there doing the single ladies dance.
Wednesday, January 13, 2010
Do Nice Guys Really Finish Last
Drama Queens excluded, yes women like nice guys. We just don't like doormats. Doormats meaning the men that try to be what they think we want. Confidence is the key word here. A man who knows what he wants, knows himself and likes himself. The man that makes us feel he can hold his own with grace. That is the man that makes a woman feel safe. A nice guy can be these things. So do nice guys finish last? No, I think not.
Then there are the men that try to sell themselves. They tell you all of their features and benefits. They tell you how they know how to treat a woman. Most of us women already learned not to put too much stock into a man's words, but to watch their actions and how they treat us. If they say they are going to call and don't, well the action said way more than the words. The action said we really aren't that important.
If that is the message you are trying to convey, fine, some drama queen will love you. Go find her. They are everywhere. I am writing this assuming you want a healthy stable relationship. A smart, emotionally balanced woman will not like a jerk, she will go with the nice guy providing he can stimulate her on an emotional level.
So how do you attract these smarter, balanced women? Do you have to play games? Well maybe not games, but being overly available and calling her 12 times a day and texting lame messages will begin to annoy her for sure. Please tell me you don't text her good morning beautiful, or sexy or something similar shortly after meeting her. Most of us roll our eyes at that because it happens all the time. You are not standing out. If you are going to send a text, by all means be creative and witty. Don't be like all the other guys.
Be a nice guy, but don't be one of the nice guys that finish last.
There are many creative ways to meet and attract women and still be a nice guy and not finish last. There is online dating, there is the cell phone which is a huge tool for you dating life. What you text and what you say when you use that phone can make or break an attraction. Learn to use these tools so that you will not be one of those nice guys that finish last.
Then there are the men that try to sell themselves. They tell you all of their features and benefits. They tell you how they know how to treat a woman. Most of us women already learned not to put too much stock into a man's words, but to watch their actions and how they treat us. If they say they are going to call and don't, well the action said way more than the words. The action said we really aren't that important.
If that is the message you are trying to convey, fine, some drama queen will love you. Go find her. They are everywhere. I am writing this assuming you want a healthy stable relationship. A smart, emotionally balanced woman will not like a jerk, she will go with the nice guy providing he can stimulate her on an emotional level.
So how do you attract these smarter, balanced women? Do you have to play games? Well maybe not games, but being overly available and calling her 12 times a day and texting lame messages will begin to annoy her for sure. Please tell me you don't text her good morning beautiful, or sexy or something similar shortly after meeting her. Most of us roll our eyes at that because it happens all the time. You are not standing out. If you are going to send a text, by all means be creative and witty. Don't be like all the other guys.
Be a nice guy, but don't be one of the nice guys that finish last.
There are many creative ways to meet and attract women and still be a nice guy and not finish last. There is online dating, there is the cell phone which is a huge tool for you dating life. What you text and what you say when you use that phone can make or break an attraction. Learn to use these tools so that you will not be one of those nice guys that finish last.
Thursday, December 3, 2009
On Line Dating Profiles for Men
The profile, wow, 98% of them say about the same thing. You tell us all of your wonderful qualities. You are honest, caring, sincere, affectionate, respectful and know how to treat a lady. These qualities are grand, it beats dishonest, selfish, liar, cold hearted and disrespectful and will treat you like trash. Don't try to sell yourself, we are not shopping for a car.
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Then there is usually the line about not playing games. So many times you men think we are playing games when we are not. We are just following the natural role of being the selector. We know most of you don't want games and neither do we. Leave that information out.
When describing your ideal mate we don't need to see your long list. When you have all of these expectations, you are only hurting yourself. Setting high specific expectations may just scare off the perfect woman for you. You may prefer blondes and that fabulous brunette just got away. You may want a fitness buff but the lounging laid back woman may be everything else you ever wanted.
Scroll the profiles, most of them start out and continue with "I". The best profiles are written like you are just talking, put your personality in there with a few facts. Leave something for the imagination. We don't want to read a novel, and we don't want to read an advertisement either. Somewhere in the middle please. We know you are looking for a good woman, we already know a lot of things, so don't repeat them. Tell us something we don't know.
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One more thing about profiles. If you have had some bad experiences, don't let that show in your profile. We have all played the fool at some point in our lives. When you mention it or allude to it, we see you as bitter. We also assume you are not over the woman before us. Big turn off. We want to know you are ready to embrace us and if you have your hands full of the past, well you just won't be able.
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Then there is usually the line about not playing games. So many times you men think we are playing games when we are not. We are just following the natural role of being the selector. We know most of you don't want games and neither do we. Leave that information out.
When describing your ideal mate we don't need to see your long list. When you have all of these expectations, you are only hurting yourself. Setting high specific expectations may just scare off the perfect woman for you. You may prefer blondes and that fabulous brunette just got away. You may want a fitness buff but the lounging laid back woman may be everything else you ever wanted.
Scroll the profiles, most of them start out and continue with "I". The best profiles are written like you are just talking, put your personality in there with a few facts. Leave something for the imagination. We don't want to read a novel, and we don't want to read an advertisement either. Somewhere in the middle please. We know you are looking for a good woman, we already know a lot of things, so don't repeat them. Tell us something we don't know.
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One more thing about profiles. If you have had some bad experiences, don't let that show in your profile. We have all played the fool at some point in our lives. When you mention it or allude to it, we see you as bitter. We also assume you are not over the woman before us. Big turn off. We want to know you are ready to embrace us and if you have your hands full of the past, well you just won't be able.
Click Here to discover how to have 7 Dates or more this month with attractive women
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