So what do women want in a man. Women are emotional creatures and first you need to understand the we are not visually stimulated. Not that a handsome face won't catch our eye, but he could open his mouth and blow it all in the first sentence. A lot of men lack the confidence it takes to really get attention. Confidence is the number one thing women want in a man. There is nothing sexier than a confident man.
Now I am a woman and I recently signed up to an on line dating site. Now first you have to decide do you want a great woman or a desperate woman and I think you know the answer to that. I consider myself far from desperate, so let me first tell you what a confident, smart woman does on an on line dating site and in all areas for that matter. First she looks at your picture, then she reads your profile. Great women rarely contact you first.
Now day one, tons of hits. I weed through them, if there is no profile, I delete. If the profile talks about how you are looking for your soul mate, I delete, not that I am not looking for mine as well. It just sounds wimpy. Now I read the messages. How are you today? Delete. How is your day? Delete. What are you looking for in a man? Delete. What do you do for fun? Delete. Good morning beautiful or sexy. Delete. Can I have your phone number? Delete. The days is over and one guy survived the cut, the one guy that was funny, confident and the one guy that obviously took the time to get past the picture and read my profile. The one guy that made me smile instead of roll my eyes. Now what was it about that one guy that made me not delete? It wasn't his looks, he was average. It was his confidence and humor and the fact that he did not act desperate that came through in his messages.
Women don't like wimpy, mushy or over accommodating. Men often try to sell themselves by telling what they have, what they can offer, like honesty, love, devotion. Sure we want that, but that is not what is going to attract us to you so that we can discover your wonderful qualities without you having to tell us about them. What I mentioned above holds true in the real dating world as well as the on line dating world. Its about how you flirt with us and make us wanting more, whether its a direct approach, a text message or the way you ask us for a date. So what do women want in a man? We want someone fun who knows how to use body language and verbal language to get a woman's attention.
I am a female who has studied the way men and women interact for years. There are a lot of great men out there not getting the woman that they want because they are going at it all wrong. They don't understand what truly attracts a woman and make her dying to see you again and hang on your every word. There are skills and techniques that you can use that get you in the door and keep you in the door. Stop being the guy that turns into that great woman's friend and learn how to attract women and keep the attraction going. I speak for all the great ladies out there doing the single ladies dance.
Wednesday, January 27, 2010
Wednesday, January 13, 2010
Do Nice Guys Really Finish Last
Drama Queens excluded, yes women like nice guys. We just don't like doormats. Doormats meaning the men that try to be what they think we want. Confidence is the key word here. A man who knows what he wants, knows himself and likes himself. The man that makes us feel he can hold his own with grace. That is the man that makes a woman feel safe. A nice guy can be these things. So do nice guys finish last? No, I think not.
Then there are the men that try to sell themselves. They tell you all of their features and benefits. They tell you how they know how to treat a woman. Most of us women already learned not to put too much stock into a man's words, but to watch their actions and how they treat us. If they say they are going to call and don't, well the action said way more than the words. The action said we really aren't that important.
If that is the message you are trying to convey, fine, some drama queen will love you. Go find her. They are everywhere. I am writing this assuming you want a healthy stable relationship. A smart, emotionally balanced woman will not like a jerk, she will go with the nice guy providing he can stimulate her on an emotional level.
So how do you attract these smarter, balanced women? Do you have to play games? Well maybe not games, but being overly available and calling her 12 times a day and texting lame messages will begin to annoy her for sure. Please tell me you don't text her good morning beautiful, or sexy or something similar shortly after meeting her. Most of us roll our eyes at that because it happens all the time. You are not standing out. If you are going to send a text, by all means be creative and witty. Don't be like all the other guys.
Be a nice guy, but don't be one of the nice guys that finish last.
There are many creative ways to meet and attract women and still be a nice guy and not finish last. There is online dating, there is the cell phone which is a huge tool for you dating life. What you text and what you say when you use that phone can make or break an attraction. Learn to use these tools so that you will not be one of those nice guys that finish last.
Then there are the men that try to sell themselves. They tell you all of their features and benefits. They tell you how they know how to treat a woman. Most of us women already learned not to put too much stock into a man's words, but to watch their actions and how they treat us. If they say they are going to call and don't, well the action said way more than the words. The action said we really aren't that important.
If that is the message you are trying to convey, fine, some drama queen will love you. Go find her. They are everywhere. I am writing this assuming you want a healthy stable relationship. A smart, emotionally balanced woman will not like a jerk, she will go with the nice guy providing he can stimulate her on an emotional level.
So how do you attract these smarter, balanced women? Do you have to play games? Well maybe not games, but being overly available and calling her 12 times a day and texting lame messages will begin to annoy her for sure. Please tell me you don't text her good morning beautiful, or sexy or something similar shortly after meeting her. Most of us roll our eyes at that because it happens all the time. You are not standing out. If you are going to send a text, by all means be creative and witty. Don't be like all the other guys.
Be a nice guy, but don't be one of the nice guys that finish last.
There are many creative ways to meet and attract women and still be a nice guy and not finish last. There is online dating, there is the cell phone which is a huge tool for you dating life. What you text and what you say when you use that phone can make or break an attraction. Learn to use these tools so that you will not be one of those nice guys that finish last.
Thursday, December 3, 2009
On Line Dating Profiles for Men
The profile, wow, 98% of them say about the same thing. You tell us all of your wonderful qualities. You are honest, caring, sincere, affectionate, respectful and know how to treat a lady. These qualities are grand, it beats dishonest, selfish, liar, cold hearted and disrespectful and will treat you like trash. Don't try to sell yourself, we are not shopping for a car.
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Then there is usually the line about not playing games. So many times you men think we are playing games when we are not. We are just following the natural role of being the selector. We know most of you don't want games and neither do we. Leave that information out.
When describing your ideal mate we don't need to see your long list. When you have all of these expectations, you are only hurting yourself. Setting high specific expectations may just scare off the perfect woman for you. You may prefer blondes and that fabulous brunette just got away. You may want a fitness buff but the lounging laid back woman may be everything else you ever wanted.
Scroll the profiles, most of them start out and continue with "I". The best profiles are written like you are just talking, put your personality in there with a few facts. Leave something for the imagination. We don't want to read a novel, and we don't want to read an advertisement either. Somewhere in the middle please. We know you are looking for a good woman, we already know a lot of things, so don't repeat them. Tell us something we don't know.
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One more thing about profiles. If you have had some bad experiences, don't let that show in your profile. We have all played the fool at some point in our lives. When you mention it or allude to it, we see you as bitter. We also assume you are not over the woman before us. Big turn off. We want to know you are ready to embrace us and if you have your hands full of the past, well you just won't be able.
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Then there is usually the line about not playing games. So many times you men think we are playing games when we are not. We are just following the natural role of being the selector. We know most of you don't want games and neither do we. Leave that information out.
When describing your ideal mate we don't need to see your long list. When you have all of these expectations, you are only hurting yourself. Setting high specific expectations may just scare off the perfect woman for you. You may prefer blondes and that fabulous brunette just got away. You may want a fitness buff but the lounging laid back woman may be everything else you ever wanted.
Scroll the profiles, most of them start out and continue with "I". The best profiles are written like you are just talking, put your personality in there with a few facts. Leave something for the imagination. We don't want to read a novel, and we don't want to read an advertisement either. Somewhere in the middle please. We know you are looking for a good woman, we already know a lot of things, so don't repeat them. Tell us something we don't know.
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One more thing about profiles. If you have had some bad experiences, don't let that show in your profile. We have all played the fool at some point in our lives. When you mention it or allude to it, we see you as bitter. We also assume you are not over the woman before us. Big turn off. We want to know you are ready to embrace us and if you have your hands full of the past, well you just won't be able.
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Thursday, November 19, 2009
Texting A Girl. Build the Attraction
So what are the best ways to text a girl? You want to get her interested and hopefully keep her interested. The best way to do this is through humor with a little suspense. Stay away from boring and the same old same old. Girls get the "good morning" text all the time. Nothing creative in that. You could have that stored and just pull it up and hit send. No effort there and we know it. Same thing with the beautiful, sexy and gorgeous names you use. Be different when texting girls, all guys send these.
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If you have to call her a name think of something cute and funny. I had a guy that always joked about how smart he was. Well he would call me grasshopper. You know, the one that learns from the teacher. Grasshopper made me smile way more than sexy or beautiful ever would. It showed me he was paying attention to the conversations we had. In texting a girl, be creative and use your sense of humor.
Don't over text girls either. It gets annoying especially when you are saying nothing really. Don't make dates over a text message or have any discussions. When you are texting to a girl mostly use this communication as a way to make her smile. It's like an anchor to her. Then every time she sees it's you texting she will associate that with a warm fuzzy feeling. The warm fuzzy feeling equals you in her mind. Keep the more serious things or talks to a phone call. When texting girls, keep it light and breezy.
Flirt, flirt, flirt when you are texting a girl. Banter and pick a bit. Be a bit elusive. Instead of saying you wish she was here, say I wish I was on your balcony drinking a beer. This will always make her think in her mind, what about me. The result you are going to get a response and she opens the door for more flirting. Flirting and texting girls goes hand in hand
Texting with a girl is great for you guys. We know you really don't like to talk on the phone and it also decreases your chances of rejection. When you are texting girls remember we are emotional creatures and not so visually stimulated like you are. We often hang on your words and you often make our day with a few well thought out sentences. Make us smile, keep the mushy stuff out and be a bit mysterious and elusive. When you think about what you are going to text a girl, always think fun.
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Women place a huge importance on phone calls and texting from men. You would not believe how we stress over this. It is a huge tool and if used properly can literally transform your dating life and relationships. You can build a huge attraction and keep it by learning how to use the phone to your advantage.
Click Here to get over 101 proven flirty text messages
Click Here to get over 101 proven flirty text messages
If you have to call her a name think of something cute and funny. I had a guy that always joked about how smart he was. Well he would call me grasshopper. You know, the one that learns from the teacher. Grasshopper made me smile way more than sexy or beautiful ever would. It showed me he was paying attention to the conversations we had. In texting a girl, be creative and use your sense of humor.
Don't over text girls either. It gets annoying especially when you are saying nothing really. Don't make dates over a text message or have any discussions. When you are texting to a girl mostly use this communication as a way to make her smile. It's like an anchor to her. Then every time she sees it's you texting she will associate that with a warm fuzzy feeling. The warm fuzzy feeling equals you in her mind. Keep the more serious things or talks to a phone call. When texting girls, keep it light and breezy.
Flirt, flirt, flirt when you are texting a girl. Banter and pick a bit. Be a bit elusive. Instead of saying you wish she was here, say I wish I was on your balcony drinking a beer. This will always make her think in her mind, what about me. The result you are going to get a response and she opens the door for more flirting. Flirting and texting girls goes hand in hand
Texting with a girl is great for you guys. We know you really don't like to talk on the phone and it also decreases your chances of rejection. When you are texting girls remember we are emotional creatures and not so visually stimulated like you are. We often hang on your words and you often make our day with a few well thought out sentences. Make us smile, keep the mushy stuff out and be a bit mysterious and elusive. When you think about what you are going to text a girl, always think fun.
Click Here to get over 101 proven flirty text messages
Women place a huge importance on phone calls and texting from men. You would not believe how we stress over this. It is a huge tool and if used properly can literally transform your dating life and relationships. You can build a huge attraction and keep it by learning how to use the phone to your advantage.
Click Here to get over 101 proven flirty text messages
Sunday, November 15, 2009
Review on Blue Truth
Blue Truth is a spiritual guide to love and sex, life and death. There are so many books out there that tell you tactics and claim to teach you secrets about the opposite sex. They are written by supposed dating gurus and while can and do work, they do not get to the heart of the matter.
David Deida goes very deep into the dynamics of the femine and masculine roles. He shares thoughts and ideas and goes deep into the heart of a woman. He explains clearly what it takes for a woman to truly open to you in a powerful way.
His book is only for the serious. If it is countless women you desire this book is not for you. If it is true and deep love you are after, this book is a must read. It can literally transform your life.
Blue Truth
The Way of the Superior Man
David Deida goes very deep into the dynamics of the femine and masculine roles. He shares thoughts and ideas and goes deep into the heart of a woman. He explains clearly what it takes for a woman to truly open to you in a powerful way.
His book is only for the serious. If it is countless women you desire this book is not for you. If it is true and deep love you are after, this book is a must read. It can literally transform your life.
Blue Truth
The Way of the Superior Man
Friday, November 13, 2009
Writing Online Dating Emails
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So you are on an online dating site. You want to send that first email but what do you say? You would like as many replies as possible. So many times you get no response and it gets discouraging. Do you realize that so many men send the same old emails and we women just roll our eyes. There is the "hello sexy" the "hello beautiful" and so forth and so on. We really want to see something original.
Now we know that you are testing the waters to check our level of interest with these meaningless emails but really think about it. What do you have to loose, it's not like you have to see these women if they ignore you. Take a chance, write a few sentences. Pick up something in her profile and take a humerous side to it. The chances of you getting a reply are greater if we feel like you really payed attention.
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Talk just like you would in person having a conversation, no slang or text launguage like ttyl, u, r, you know the abbreviations you use when you text. Check your grammar and your spelling. Poor spelling and bad grammar are a huge turnoff. If you can't put a simple sentence together we are going to question your mind. First impressions are very important.
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So you are on an online dating site. You want to send that first email but what do you say? You would like as many replies as possible. So many times you get no response and it gets discouraging. Do you realize that so many men send the same old emails and we women just roll our eyes. There is the "hello sexy" the "hello beautiful" and so forth and so on. We really want to see something original.
Now we know that you are testing the waters to check our level of interest with these meaningless emails but really think about it. What do you have to loose, it's not like you have to see these women if they ignore you. Take a chance, write a few sentences. Pick up something in her profile and take a humerous side to it. The chances of you getting a reply are greater if we feel like you really payed attention.
Click Here to discover how to have 7 Dates or more this month with attractive women
Talk just like you would in person having a conversation, no slang or text launguage like ttyl, u, r, you know the abbreviations you use when you text. Check your grammar and your spelling. Poor spelling and bad grammar are a huge turnoff. If you can't put a simple sentence together we are going to question your mind. First impressions are very important.
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Wednesday, November 4, 2009
Online Dating Advice for Men
Dating sites are becoming more and more popular. When you join an online dating site for men your chances for meeting more women increases dramatically. Its like shopping. You put in your criteria and ta da, pages of women to choose from appear. So why do you still get refected? What are you doing wrong? There is so much to consider. There is the profile, the pictures and those first emails. What can you do to stand out in the online dating world?
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The first impression is your picture. Make sure it is a close up and it is clear. If you choose to add other pictures to your profile, consider adding ones where you are actively doing what you enjoy. No pictures of pets, landscape scenes or other women, regardless of who they are. Women are turned off by pictures of you with other women. One of the best tips for internet dating for men is have a picture. A close up and one full body is prefered.
Then the important thing, your profile. It would not hurt to do a reverse search and view other profiles of men. By seeing profiles of other men you can get a good idea how to stand out above the others. 98% of male profiles start out with something like how honest, loving, sincere, hardworking and so on and so forth a man is. As opposed to what? Dishonest, hateful, deceitful and lazy? These qualities do not need to be pointed out. Your personality should shine in your online profile. She should be motivated by your words to learn more about you.
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That first email is crucial. I am a woman active on a dating site and I can't tell you how many times I roll my eyes. The majority of the men either send something lame like "Ya wanna chat", or "How are you", and I have even got just a lame "hi". This does nothing for me or any other woman for that matter. Then there are the men that enter our inboxes trying to sell themselves. Please spare us, we are not buying a car. We are looking for creative interesting men. Are you out there? A male online profile should pique our interest, not bore us to tears.
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The first impression is your picture. Make sure it is a close up and it is clear. If you choose to add other pictures to your profile, consider adding ones where you are actively doing what you enjoy. No pictures of pets, landscape scenes or other women, regardless of who they are. Women are turned off by pictures of you with other women. One of the best tips for internet dating for men is have a picture. A close up and one full body is prefered.
Then the important thing, your profile. It would not hurt to do a reverse search and view other profiles of men. By seeing profiles of other men you can get a good idea how to stand out above the others. 98% of male profiles start out with something like how honest, loving, sincere, hardworking and so on and so forth a man is. As opposed to what? Dishonest, hateful, deceitful and lazy? These qualities do not need to be pointed out. Your personality should shine in your online profile. She should be motivated by your words to learn more about you.
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That first email is crucial. I am a woman active on a dating site and I can't tell you how many times I roll my eyes. The majority of the men either send something lame like "Ya wanna chat", or "How are you", and I have even got just a lame "hi". This does nothing for me or any other woman for that matter. Then there are the men that enter our inboxes trying to sell themselves. Please spare us, we are not buying a car. We are looking for creative interesting men. Are you out there? A male online profile should pique our interest, not bore us to tears.
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